Anna Nicole Smith is surely one of the most tragic celebrities around.
The sultry blonde model/personality has garnered an overabundance of attention from the world’s media for her bizarre behavior, alleged gold-digging ways and, of course, the recent events regarding the mysterious death of her son and birth of her new baby..
This is a lady clearly in trouble.
Following are my recommendations to her for turning around her outrageous existence:
1. Realize that you have a problem.
Anna Nicole, you are heralded for your beauty worldwide, but merely being beautiful and famous doesn’t equal happiness.
Look at your life honestly. It’s a shambles.
You have all the outward trappings of success, but you continue to act in bizarre ways and do things to call negative notice to yourself.
If what your family members say is correct and you are abusing drugs, you are putting yourself in a very dangerous situation that may not only end your career, but destroy your life.
It doesn’t take a rocket science t see that there is something wrong going on with you and, before you can get help, you need to admit that you indeed do have some things in your life that need to be fixed.
2. Seek counseling as soon as possible.
Your money can buy you the best psychiatric or psychological help there is.
Get in contact with a good therapist to assist you in getting to the root of all of your personal issues. Be willing to tell that person the truth and listen to what he or she has to say.
3. Unload users and losers in your life.
You’ve had all kinds of men and oddball folks surrounding you and enabling you to keep on going in the same downward direction.
Lovers who bring you down don’t really love you and friends who use you for their own gain are not your friends.
Rid yourself of those who are only aiding you in your self-destruction. If you end up dead because of your behavior, these folks will all be rushing out to sell their stories to The National Enquirer for big bucks and not caring the least bit about what happened to you.
4. Find yourself.
Just who are you, Anna Nicole?
I don’t think you even know anymore. You seem to think everything is a game or a fairy tale, so you immerse yourself in a “pretend” world, to stop from facing reality.
You need to get a hold of who you really are as an individual instead of constantly running away from finding out the truth of who you really are inside.
5. Take responsibility for your actions.
You’re an adult, almost 40 years old now, yet you are as reckless as somebody in their 20’s.
This is the time for you to begin to take responsibility for the things you do and say. Acting like they mean nothing or being in denial of awful behavior does nothing to elevate you.
When you do something wrong, like giving that obviously “drugged out” acceptance speech at the American Music Awards, it’s important for you to acknowledge that your conduct is unacceptable.
Accountability is part of being a grown up and growing up should definitely be on your “Things to Do” list for the brand new year.
6. Get a paternity test for your baby, for crying out loud.
If you haven’t done so by the time of this writing, Anna Nicole, please do the right thing by finding out who the real father of your baby is. Stop acting like a guest on the Maury Povitxch Show.
Your baby shouldn’t have to suffer because you want to avoid facing reality.
Your daughter deserves to know who her father is and her father deserves the right to be able to spend time with her and get to be a part of her life, whether you are in a relationship with whoever he is or not.
I know your universe centers around yourself, but this is not about you. This is about your child.
7. Become a good example for your child.
Your late son Daniel appeared to really adore you, but it has always seemed that he was more of an adult than you were, like he was your parent, instead of the other way around.
That’s too much of a load to put on any child, no matter how good he or she may be. .
Work on learning to become the kind of mother your daughter can look up to. You are supposed to nurture her and make her feel protected. You are supposed to teach her wisdom and help her learn from your mistakes, but that’s hard to do when you haven’t been able to admit that you even make mistakes.
You may even be tempted to refrain from setting rules and regulations for your daughter, so she will “like” you, but stand up and set some perimeters.
Your child needs a parent, not a “buddy”.
8. Reconnect with your family members.
Being estranged from your mother and other relatives is hard for everyone concerned.
They may remind you of your past, when your life wasn’t as glamorous, but, when all is said and done, it’s family who remains when everybody else scatters.
Even if they have said and done things you dislike, work on reconciling with your relatives, for the sake of your child, who needs to be exposed to “normal” people and not just that weird entourage that you usually hang out with.
Call them and try to arrange a meeting with them in a private setting, without any media involved.
There may come a time when you will need your family, so make the effort to move towards healing your relationship with them.
9. Learn to really love yourself.
When you learn how to love and appreciate yourself, then you will start wanting the best things for yourself and be less willing to persist in doing in actions that hurt your life.
Some people who use drugs and alcohol to excess and who behave in outrageous ways do it to hide their insecurity.
When you love yourself, you will not let anyone disrespect or use you.
10. Find a spiritual focus.
Find a spiritual focus in your life, to help you concentrate on something outside of yourself. You need to find inner peace and it will never come from the superficial resources you have been using.
You don’t have to beat a tambourine or attend a church service to seek God, just speak to Him right from where you are.