Moms, we think we have the inside scoop on how to care for our babies and toddlers better than our spouses. For stay-at-homes mom, we especially believe that we know how to take care of our babies and toddler the best, otherwise, we wouldn’t be the ones doing it.
While moms certainly do have a different approach to childcare than dads too, we have to stop dismissing their ways as the “wrong” ways. Moms need to give dads credit for the things they do know how to do.
Dads do not need to be left a tome of baby instructions. They do not need to be called every ten minutes to see how they are doing.
Results not Methods
Hopefully when it comes to the big decisions mom and dad are on the same page. When it comes to the small, everyday activities moms and dad do not do things the same way.
Both parents are concerned with making sure that the baby and toddler has enough to eat and drink. Both parents want baby to have a clean diaper. Both mom and dad are interested in keeping baby happy and entertained. Both parents want to comfort the baby and toddler emotionally. Both mom and dad want the baby or toddler to have fun being physical and imaginative.
Moms and dads may each have their own way of reaching ease of these goals. It’s not the method that is important, it’s the result.
There are many things dads know how to do. Moms need not be concerned when dad is in charge because dad can do all of the following activities without mom’s input or supervision:
1. Dad knows how to feed the baby
Dad is capable of preparing and heating up food for the baby or toddler. Dad also knows how to check the temperature of food. Dad knows how to fill a bottle or cup.
2. Dad knows how to change a diaper
Dad also knows how to change a diaper. Dad knows how to powder and clean baby. Dad also knows how to change soiled clothing.
3. Dad will not break the baby
Dad knows how to take care of the baby without breaking him or her. Dads can keep a watchful eye on baby as well as moms can. Dads may even be more strict about certain potentially dangerous behaviors. Accidents can happen when either parent is nearby, not just dads.
4. Dad knows how to play with baby.
Dads sometimes take a more rough and tumble approach to playtime than moms do. This is not bad, this is just different than mom’s playtime methods.
5. Dad is a loving and responsible parent.
Trust that dad is a loving and responsible parent that will take care of the baby or toddler when you are not home. His ways may be different, but his goals are the same, a happy and healthy toddler