If you’re a parent who truly wants to improve your child’s self esteem, then I want to give you a huge pat on the back. This is because you obviously and unequivocally know the importance of having high self esteem. You want the best for your kids and you are willing to do everything that you possibly can to give them the tools they need to be successful. And, having high self esteem is one of those tools that can certainly help them better themselves in the long run. You see, children who feel secure, loved, and encouraged to develop high self esteem are much happier and more successful at achieve their goals. So, let’s discuss 5 ways that you can boost your child’s self esteem right now.
1. Discover his interests and show your support. Sometimes parents mistakenly impose their dreams and aspirations on their children. Then, when their children refuse to do whatever it is that they want them to do, the parent feels hurt and the child becomes frustrated. The key is to support the things that your child wants to do. If they’re interested in basket weaving then heck, buy them some baskets and string. Do what it takes to support his interests. By doing this, you are encouraging their personal growth, helping improve their self esteem and strengthening the parent/child bond.
2. Give praise generously and criticism sparingly. You may think that you are just being honest with your child by administering criticism, but you could be undermining his confidence. With this in mind, find things that he is good at and praise him. Constructive criticism should be withheld and only administered in emergency situations. After all, what good is it to tell your child that he can’t do anything right? Instead, tell him that he is your super hero and that he can achieve anything if he sets his mind and heart to it. This will prevent him from thinking he is incapable of accomplishing his goals and will inspire him to see himself as a winner.
3. Support him with new interests. Whenever your child expresses a new interest, give him support. He is showing courage and determination and the willingness to try something new. Instead of telling him about why he can’t do it, find ways to help him achieve his goal. For instance, let’s say that your son wants to play football although he has always played basketball in the past. Instead of telling him that he shouldn’t switch sports, encourage him to try. Tell him that with hard work and perseverance that he will most likely get better. In essence, do whatever you can to further his interests and help him achieve his aspirations. Allow him to grow his wings and use them to fly.
4. Make your child feel empowered by assigning important tasks to him. Most parents think that all their child can do is sit around and watch televisions all day. However, assigning age appropriate tasks to your child can help him develop his self confidence. By encouraging him to complete even simple tasks, will give him immense pride. For instance, if you allow your 7 year old to set the table or wash the dishes, you will build his confidence and gets some extra help around the house.
5. Bond with your child. Nothing can build his confidence more than knowing his parents care for him. You can do this by regularly bonding with your child. If you know that he loves to play video games then you can do them together. If you know that she loves to dance and act silly then do the Tango, Macarena or some other dance. The key is to always show interest in what he is doing. This will definitely increase confidence and self esteem.
As a parent, you hold your child’s future in your hands. By treating your children with love and respect, assigning them special tasks, bonding with them and encouraging their interest, you will improve their self esteem immensely and develop a stronger parent/child relationship too.