Being married is almost everyone’s dream, putting together a huge wedding for your friends and family. Sharing the fact that you are going to live out the rest of your days with this one person that you are deeply in love with. Then somehow after all those years, you find yourself sitting around a table with strangers, who know nothing about you or your ex to be. Going through a divorce can be a pivitol point in your life and adjusting to it is harder than it comes off to be.
Dating doesn’t come easy but eventually you begin to think it over, in hopes to find that “special someone” again.Of course everyone tells you that you have all the time in the world and maybe you should take it slow. You don’t want to rush into anything and make the same mistake you did the first time.But in your heart you feel as if you weren’t made to be lonely and there is a huge possibilty that there is a place out there for you in the relationship world.
So now you must take baby steps and open your options up so that you are able to converse in the world of dating after divorce.
Take time to appreciate yourself as a person. Get in touch with your innerself and seek to learn the things about you that others may want to learn in the future. Become one with yourself to the point where you are comfortable with your own existence and your own company. Embrace your qualities until you understand them. To expect others to appreciate the person you are, you have to appreciate yourself. And know that you are not the same person you were before your divorce, you have change drastically. So before you jump into the water, get to know the new you.
Appreciate the little things in life. Learn to be easy and open to humor. Teach yourself to take things lightly because during your recovery time, you are going to go through many emotions that are going to cause you to become bitter. Keep only positive things surrounding you and get accustomed to being happy. Once you get used to feeling a certain way, you’ll find it really hard to fall victim to negative thinking.
LET GO OF THE PAST! there will never be a way to move forward and begin dating someone when you are holding on to the past. Harboring previous feelings toward your previous situation will only hender your future relationship.This is one of the main things that you HAVE to do before you even think about pursuing another person.Face your past and indure all of the heartache so that you can get over the hurtful events. Holding a grudge will do nothing but put a hold on your life.
The one thing most people find hard to do even out of a relationship is being true to themselves. You are the one person that you can not lie to so why try. Understand that no one is going to love you better than you. This concept is going to be quite hard to understand considering the fact that you just divorced. You begin to doubt yourself and get right from wrong confused. Go with your gut feeling and let your heart guide you.
It’s not about adjusting to the single life its about preparing for your future relationship. It’s about taking time out to get to know yourself all over again. We all change and we definitely change after a life altering event. Except that for what it is and don’t rush yourself into anything because that someone is going to be there waiting on you whenever you are ready.