Valentine’s day is coming and people often have mixed emotions about the festivities this day includes. There are several individuals who treat this day as holiday. Of course, those are the people that have a significant other in their life and look forward to re-kindling their relationships. If it is not about re-kindling that spark, then it is about the excitement of a new relationship celebrating love for the first time. Then there are those people who frown down upon this dreadful day. I like to classify these type of people as the singletons. You know, the single individuals who recently had a cruel break up, lost the love of their lives, or simply feel they have “no luck” when it comes to maintaining a relationship.
A few years ago, I was considered one of those people who frowned down on this supposed dreadful day. I had a not-so-recent breakup from a seven year relationship that left me bitter and negative. Sure, I dated casually, however, my insecurities would get the best of me and usually the short relationships ended, horribly. I would drink myself into oblivions on the weekends just to make it through the club scenes, comfortably. It would actually make my sick when I would view public displays of affection or when the average Joe would approach me with some lame line to help gain my attention. It seemed that even if a potential date was sincere and passionate in their meet and greet tactics, I would still blow them off due to anger from past relationship fumbles.
I can remember my parents warning me, in my teens, that I would get my heart broken at times but fate would eventually guide me to true love. It’s funny how you never believe their words until you conquer the struggles involved in the pursuit to hapiness. It took me a little longer to believe what my parents had told me, but on Valentine’s day in 2002, fate did find me and made my life do a 360 degree turn.
Just when I thought I would be alone on another dreadful V-day, Beth (Cupid I like to call her) convinced me to go out to one of our local bars to celebrate being single. Being a great friend, I agreed but promised her that I would not have fun, nor would I take the opportunity to doll myself up for this grand occasion. True, I went out in a horrible outfit with no make-up and more bitterness than a bottle of poor tasting cough syrup. Little did I know that my life would change, dramatically, after this night.
As we arrived at one of our favorite hang outs, my friend immediately ran into a man she used to date. I thought for sure this night would only get worse, until someone approached me and actually did not give me a lame pick up line. Instead this man approached me and started a fight with me because “apparently” I was mean to him in college. To be honest, I really did not remember this man from college (at first), and then it dawned on me…he was one of my next door neighbors in the dormitory. Although we argued for awhile, the tones we were using were taking a turn for the better and became humerous and flirtatious. After the intitial argument ended, we were actually speaking like two people who were the best of friends. After a great night on the day I dreaded, dearly, my husband (now) asked me out on an official date…and of course I accepted.
There is much more to this story that has led up to our marriage, but the moral of this article is to give support to those people who feel negative about new relationships and are against celebrating the love Cupid has to spread. You see, just when I thought things could not get worse, they actually didn’t. Now, let’s talk about fate, too. I was so absorbed in a college relationship that was going nowhere, that I did not notice the person, right next door (literally), that would make me one happy Valentine. Fate actually does work in strange ways. If anyone would have told me where I would be now, I would have never believed them.
I am now happy, married, and yes….fate took a turn again! I now have triplets with this person I used to ignore and often find myself waiting on more unexpected events. All it takes is one moment in time to bring you a lifetime of happiness. For all you non-Valentine lovers, don’t give up on love and be patient. Just when your not expecting hapiness, it will find a way to funnel into your life.