Choosing wedding music can rouse a varied combination of emotions from you and your partner. Fun and exhilaration, anticipation and excitement, become quick companions with stress and disgust, and anxiety and anger.
You and your partner may share similar tastes in music, making the process rather easy, or you may disagree, leading to arguments that have no place in the moment. You are discussing elements of your wedding, after all, and every aspect should be a happy one. If a disagreement should arise, then step aside and remember that you a planning a wedding together, and as in a marriage, compromise is key. It is highly unlikely that you or your partner will enjoy every song played at the wedding, as tastes are bound to differ at least a little bit.
But most importantly, when choosing your music, the song on which you should place the most importance is your wedding song. This is the song you and your partner will first dance to as a married couple, and forever thereafter, it will reflect upon your overwhelming feelings of love, happiness, contentment and joy.
It should be a song that will remain special to you both and reflect how you two truly feel about each other, and how you always hope to remain.
DJs and websites focused on helping engaged couples choose wedding music will have large lists encompassing many songs traditionally chosen for a wedding song between bride and groom. However, you are not required to pick any of those particular songs.
You must remind yourself that you are not choosing a wedding song based on what your friends and family might think, or what your DJ recommends. The wedding song you choose should be something meaningful between you and your partner, because at that moment in time when you are dancing to the song of your choice, and you look into each other’s eyes and smile, it will be as if only you two exist in the room. For those few minutes that the song is played and you are dancing, it will be your magic moment of perfection, when the love that rests in your hearts comes bubbling forth, riding the crests of the wave of music that surrounds you both.
Everyone, especially family, will likely have suggestions for you. Thank them politely, and let them know that you are choosing a wedding song more suited to your musical tastes and more reflective of how you and your partner feel about each other. Do not let anyone else influence your decision.
There are no rules involved in choosing a wedding song, despite the role of traditional influence. Your song can be anything you choose – slow, upbeat, rock, techno, classical, anything at all, as long as it arouses those feelings of everlasting love within you both. The wedding song is intended to be a musical culmination of all those feelings of love contained within, a song that celebrates that love and voices it to the world.
If you should find it difficult to choose a particular song, then you should know that you are not limited to a single song. If you so desire, instruct your DJ to play two songs, explaining that they both evoke feelings within you. You can dance yourselves to the first, and then invite the wedding party and guests to join in the dancing when the second begins.
Remember, this is your wedding, and your DJ or band is being paid to work for you, and you only. And while you may feel the need to cater to family and guests when deciding upon the complete music list, when it comes to the wedding song, that is for you and your partner alone, the one moment where the day truly belongs to you.