Fifty years ago, large families were common, although there was nothing wrong with a smaller family, the lifestyle was different and more babies were born. In shows like ‘Little house on the Prairie’, there were only four children; Mary, Laura, Carrie and eventually Grace. ‘The Waltons’ told of life as a big family and the ups and downs that go along with it. John boy was the oldest and Elizabeth was the youngest. All the children looked to John boy for advice and wisdom as well as mom and dad. We learned that in a large family, you may not always get along with everyone at the same time, but you were loved by all.
From the sixties until the late nineties, an average family was considered to be with two children. Mom and Dad had to work and support the family. This busy life style left families learning to control all the situations, including how many children they had. I guess you could say that now, large families are back in style. I came from the seventies generation and there was only my brother and myself. Life was a little lonely without other siblings running around. We were provided with a wonderful childhood, filled with lots of love. Mom stayed home with us and my dad worked in the coalmines.
Our family consists of my husband and myself and our five children, one girl and four boys. I think that everyone in our house agrees that large families are wonderful. I am a stay at home mother who takes care of the children, and all the perks that come with staying at home. My husband holds down a regular 40 hour work week. In modern times, one might find it difficult to survive on just one income, but it is easier than you think.
There are several ways to make it work. The first is to know where all of your money goes. This is easier to do once you gain self control. The second thing would be that you need to rely on home cooking. There is no way to depend on eating out all the time. When we do go out in the evening, I either have dinner ready before we go or I fix snacks and treats for the road. We have fun being a family and doing family oriented activities so that everyone is included in the fun. We talk to our children. We want them to always be able to count on us. But if there is a time that they can’t count on us, then they have a close bond with their siblings, which will be there for them too.
We teach our children to always strive for their dreams, and we help them reach for them. But we also teach them how to be simple in a complex world. We owe it to them. All of our children know that they are loved as the individual that they are and they are loved by every single person in our family. What a great life.