Identifying behaviors that could potentially sabotage a relationship is not always easy. In fact, is it easier to overlook the things that we are doing that are harmful for our relationships while we sit wondering what on earth is going wrong? Identifying the bad behaviors, while not exactly pleasant, is a much better alternative than losing the relationship because of the harmful behaviors or habits.
Tip one – Realize that sex is important in a successful and harmonious relationship. There are a large number of committed couples that minimize the importance of sex in a relationship. It remains the best way for couples to develop and maintain intimacy. Without it, you begin to not want the intimacy, which is a dangerous road to go down as a couple. Successful relationships depend upon a shared intimacy.
Tip two – Always talk about finances together. One of the main reasons that couples divorce or go there separate ways is money. It is a stressful subject, which means it is important that there is adequate communication regarding finances. It is also important that you both are on the same page, meaning if you are a saver and he is a spender then some sort of compromise needs to be reached or you both will spend a lot of time frustrated at the other’s spending habits.
Tip three – Remember to have some alone time and not spend all of your time together with your extended families. When you are in a committed relationship, it is important to remember that your commitment and loyalty are to this person first, not your family – and the same goes for them. This mean you cannot ‘air your dirty laundry’ regarding your relationship to your family and vice versa. Doing something like this can put a definite and noticeable strain on your relationship and make your partner feel as if you value them less than your family. And remember to not side with your family over your partner, or it will seem as if everyone is ganging up on them.
Tip four – Do not take on each others bad behavior. It is almost unpreventable that a couple will pick up each others habits simply because of the closeness that they will share. Unfortunately, this means both good and bad habits are picked up. For instance, if your partner eats a lot of junk food whereas you are a health nut, then do not pick up their junk food habit as an excuse to do something together. Instead, develop new habits that you can do together.
Tip five – Do not fall into a rhythm of complacency. It is important for couples to not fall into a routine where nice thoughts and compliments are left to the wayside. Just because you have been married for 20 years does not mean that you cannot bring your wife flowers. If you both are working long hours, remember to ask about each other’s days. A simple compliment can go a long ways. You can also be help and make a small gesture of love by making your partner’s lunch for work, and don’t forget to enclose a little surprise love note.