Anytime you have a loved one that is an addict, the emotional ride they take you on is physically exhausting. If you think you are alone, think again. Someone I love and care for very much is an addict and has been for a very long time. If you are in need of seeking help for yourself or a loved one, I would like to share this information. This information comes from emails sent to me by Narconon and they have facilities worldwide. I would suggest that anyone needing information check into their programs because I have heard they have a great success rate.
The articles are entitled “The Life Cycle and Mechanics of Addiction” and describe how an addict behaves and thinks. “…..The life cycle of addiction begins with a problem, discomfort or some form of emotional or physical pain a person is experiencing. The person finds this very difficult to deal with”….”Here is an individual who, like most people in our society, is basically good. He has encountered a problem that is causing him physical or emotional pain and discomfort”……”Once the person takes a drug he feels relief from the discomfort.”
Part 2 of these articles describe the cravings(the uncontrollable desire to use again) of an addict and that overcoming the cravings is the first challenge in any drug rehab program.”……To get an idea of what drug cravings are like, remember a time when you went for a long time without eating a meal and you were really hungry
Being hungry is a mental and physical experience that is triggered when the body needs nutritional energy. It is a craving for food that is driven at a physical level which in turn stimulates memories of eating food which is followed by a strong desire or compulsion to consume food….As soon as the food is consumed the hunger pangs stop and one feels good about satisfying their hunger.”…..”A drug craving is similar but the desire to use drugs is much stronger and more intense than hunger pangs. An addict who is craving drugs will feel like life itself is dependent on them getting their drug of choice. They will do and say almost anything to get the drug to feed the craving they have for it. Once they feed the craving they feel relief from the physical and mental drive to use until the drug wears off and the craving returns.”……When an addict’s body metabolizes fat, if the fat cells contain metabolites from past alcohol and drug use, as the fat cell burns the drug metabolite will activate back into the person’s blood stream. Keeping in mind that each type of drug produces its own metabolite and the drugs or alcohol have already been in the blood stream when they were originally ingested the body gets reminded of the drug at a physical level which will then trigger recorded memories of drug related experiences and discomforts from the past. The person remembers feeling and thinking like they did in the past when they were under the influence or will remember experiencing pain and discomfort when they were coming down from the drug and so are prone to use again at these times.”
Part 3 touches on the subject of depression and if you have a loved one that you are close to, most of this probably has tears running like a river by this point,because it hurts. It really hurts to see someone you love destroy themselves and their lives and to hurt the one who love them.”……At a physical level most addicts are in a declining or poor state of health. When they are high they are in a euphoric, painless state of mind and are numb to the damage drugs and/or alcohol are causing to their body. When they are sober they have no energy and minor aches and pains are intensified. They are physically spent, all as a result of the severe nutritional deficiencies that follow long-term abusive drug or alcohol use. It is these deficiencies that accelerate poor health and put the person in a physically lethargic state of being”……..”At a mental level they have a difficult time finding joy or happiness in anything while they are not under the influence. An addict at some point surrenders to the idea that they must be high in order to experience anything at an emotional level. They must be high to celebrate an accomplishment, to escape sadness; they must be high to solve problems, to enjoy sex, to have meaningful relationships, to work or to play. The addict really believes and operates on this principal, numb to the actual fact that their quality life and relationships with others is on a down trending spiral.”
Part 4 talks about the guilt an addict experiences.”……An addict is filled with guilt. He feels guilty because he has lost his integrity; he has become a dishonest person and consequently loses his self-esteem. For any rehabilitation method to be successful an addict has got to face his transgressions and be able to clean up the wreckage in their life that is there because of their addiction and the dishonest deeds that are part of this life style”……..”Guilt is an unpleasant feeling and so can prompt the addict to use more drugs to temporarily relieve themselves from this unwanted condition…….”The addict will also begin to withdraw more and more from friends and family as the transgressions committed by the addict increase in number. They will eventually pull away from the family, seclude themselves, and/or become antagonistic towards those they love. Remember, the basic personality of an addict is good and the reason they end up withdrawing from those they love is because they know they are doing the wrong thing and the act of withdrawing from those places and people that the addict has harmed is the addict’s attempt to restrain themselves from committing any further transgressions to those places and people they care about.”
I never thought I would be in a position to say that I speak from experience on intimately loving an addict. However,I failed my loved one because I wasnt the one strong enough to deal with his addictions and decided to put him out of my life. Did I make the right choice? At this point in my life I feel I did because my children are more important than any man and the stress was way too much. For anyone else that has hope,their is hope and Narconon may be the answer.