This society we live in today , in most cases, gives the up-most consideration to the mother’s of children. What about the father’s? Day after day and year after year these fathers are forced to pay child support. What do they get in return? Nothing, in alot of cases. These father’s go without seeing their children for weeks , months and ,yes, sometimes even years. They are not consulted when their children go to the doctor , do good or bad in school , have an emergency situation or for any other reason. Fathers DO have rights too!
Children need their fathers in their lives, just as much as they need their mothers. No doubt , there are some true “dead-beat dads” out there though it is safe to venture that most of them DO want to be a part of their children’s lives. Mother’s have a tendency to divorce the father and then divorce the children from the father as well. This is not fair to the fathers and is most certainly unfair to the children.
Here are some statistics that will rock your world. The 2000 ACFC Child Support Survey Reports Have the Following information. (http://www.facenj.org/stats/cs/ACFC-CS.HTM)
— 9.5 % of child support payers are satisfied with the amount of time they spend with their children, 90.5 % are not satisfied.
— 82.0 % of child support payers have experienced access and visitation denial; 18.0 % have not
— Of the 82.0 % that have experienced access and visitation denial, in 17.7 % of cases, the court did something to enforce visitation; in 82.3 % of cases, the court did not do anything to enforce visitation.
Now , Granted Not all of these statistics are Fathers yet these are some pretty scary numbers. In most cases it is the father that is denied visitation and parenting rights with their children. How is this doing any good for the children?
Are you liking Statistics? Because I have a few more for you. These numbers are a little older than the ones above but they are specific to fathers. Mens Rights On line gathered these numbers from the US Census Bureau report. (http://www.mens-rights.net/law/support.htm)
— 90% of Non-Custodial fathers Pay Child Support
— Total Custodial Mothers: 11,268,000.
— Total Custodial Fathers: 2,907,000.
If you are not a father or are not directly affected by a father not being able to see his children these numbers will probably be “just numbers” to you. Take a look at these numbers. It is astounding that our society operates the way it does concerning fathers.
Something that society as a whole needs to figure out is that Father’s are parents too. Okay , so they make a few mistakes. Don’t mother’s make mistakes too. I know I do. The court systems and child support enforcement agencies are very hard on Father’s. Yes , they should pay child support but they should also have equal access and rights to their children. I can not help myself , look at the statistics regarding Mothers and Fathers defaulting on child support. (http://www.mens-rights.net/law/support.htm)
— 47% of Non-Custodial Mothers Default on Child Support.
— 27% of Non-Custodial Fathers Default Child Support.
Do you see what I see? More Mother’s default on child support than Father’s ! Crazy society we live in. You will see more father’s hauled off to court and/or jail for non-payment issues than you ever will Mother’s. Why? I have no idea, I thought we lived in an equal country.
Chances are I have bored you silly with statistics. So , let me tell you a little something that is not statistics. I take this personally , even as a woman, because my boyfriend pays child support every single month and does not have rights to his daughter. We are fighting it , yes we are, but it does not make sense to me. He is a great father and stands up for his responsibility. He is not mean , violent or ignorant. He works hard and all he wants is to be a part of his child’s life. Then there is me , for two of my children I do receive child support. Their father is not allowed contact due to sexual abuse against my children. For my youngest daughter I have never seen many child support payments, however, I feel it is vital for her to spend time with her father. She spends time with him as her school schedule allows. He even gets her longer in the summer than I do! Why? It was my choice , she needs her father to be a part of her life. Then there is my youngest son , I have to pay child support for him. I do pay, maybe not on time and in most cases just one lump sum at the end of the year, but I do pay. Now I get to see him all the time. Before Ilived out of state and actually got to see him 3 times in four and a half years. That hurts. So I can really feel for the fathers out there that get ripped from their children without so much as a goodbye.
Just so that you fathers know there are things you can do to gain your rights back as an active parent in your child’s life. It will take time and probably some money , but it is possible. Look at the links I posted below, they should give you a start. Just always remember that Fathers DO Have Rights Too. Stand up for yourself and stand up for your children.