What’s the one thing, besides your nutritional needs, that you can’t live without? For many people, this might be a difficult question to answer. To others the answer may seem simple. The answer is where your values rest.
Well, people step out on a limb because that’s where the fruit is – and I think we can all step out on a limb and say that few people answered that question by saying they absolutely cannot live without one’s self. Tricky notion, huh? Call it self-worth, self-esteem or self-validation: confidence and acknowledgment in your own personal value and worth is tough for a lot of people. It’s actually tough for a lot of people and due to it; most people seek out materialistic objects to fill the void. Once those voids are filled there’s no sign, on the surface of things, of low or no self-worth.
When discussing material objects, for the sake of consistency and simplicity, we can easily reduce most material things to money. Finding value in yourself outside of your finances cannot easily be accomplished without accepting who you are.
Since no one but you truly know what you value in life, the trick here is to first ask yourself a couple of questions:
• What do I truly value in the world?
• What do I truly value in myself?
Before putting any significant thought into these questions, keep in mind that the answer to each question has a specific link and relationship to each other. What you value in the world is the consequence of what you value within yourself – and the same holds true of what you least value or dislike about the world, which usually stems from what you least value or dislike about yourself. Writing your thoughts down on paper may help with keeping yourself honest.
This self-discovery exercise will help you prioritize your values and get a little closer to “knowing thyself’! Self-discovery is a process, which sometimes can cost you thousands of dollars in psychotherapy to truly understand yourself at the deepest core.
Here are some quick tips to help you find self-worth outside of materialistic worldly objects, such as money.
• Realize that money may buy happier, but it will never truly buy complete happiness.
• It’s the little things in life … there’s nothing bigger: try not to expect so much out of life and allow the little things to bring you joy.
• Get rid, give away, or donate any worldly object that you don’t use or need. There may be someone else who does have a need or use for it. Doing this will be liberating and hopefully gratifying in the sense that you made someone else’s life a little easier and possibly a little happier.
• Go out and find something to do without having to spend any or very little money – and ideally spend the time with people whom you love and care about. Some ideas can be to take a walk in the wilderness, watch the sunrise, watch the sunset, star gazing or explore something new about your neighborhood.
Finding self-value or value period, outside of trivial objects such as money can be exemplified by thinking about the important relationships you’ve built in your life and the intangible quality that they represent to you. If there’s anything bigger than the little things in life than this might be it.