I hope this is something that you will never need but lets face it, a lot of us do. If this is really going on then this is likely to be one of the most devastating things that you will have to go through as a person. Not knowing is something that is almost just as hard as if you do know. If you have a gut feeling that something is different around your house and you think your loved one may be cheating then you have to find out for sure. There are many signs that you should watch out for. These are all based on your partner and what their normal behavior is. Use any of these tips and they will help you know for sure if your spouse is cheating or not.
#1- Phones- If they are indeed cheating then they will have to get ahold of that person some how. If you see them walking away from you while they are on the phone, or if they seem to sneak away during phone calls then that may be all the clues you need. Start by listening in on the phone call. If this is a house phone they are on, then its very easy to do. You can either bug the phone, or you can just walk away and head to another phone. Act like your not paying any attention to them and walk into another room where there is a phone. Gently pick up the phone and listen to their conversation. If they use cell phones then this can be a little harder to do. If they leave at weird hours mark them down. If something doesn’t sound right where they are going, write that down to. Most cell phone companies can provide you with a detailed list of phone calls. I can find mine on the computer. Grab your notes and compare them to their phone calls and see who hes calling when hes not with you. If you don’t know a number head down to a local payphone, or block your number from them if you know how and call that number. If a women answers and you don’t know her then make something up. Try and get some answers without letting on to who you are. You don’t want them to know you suspect something or else they will be even sneakier.
#2- Online- Since this is the 20th century many spouses use the computer as a way to cheat. If you don’t know much about computers then I suggest you learn. Try and learn while your spouse is away though. If they know that you don’t know much about computers then this is going to be the place to catch them. They will be less likely to cover their tracks here. If you do know about computers then that’s fine to. There are still plenty of ways to catch them in the act. There is a software called eblaster that has become very useful in catching your spouse. If they have their own email account then you can set this software to email your account with all their emails. So everything they send and receive will get emailed to you instead. This wonderful program will also record their chats, instant messages and web sites visited and it will email all the to your email address. I would suggest setting up an account that your husband does not know about for these emails vacations to go to. You wouldn’t want your spouse to find out your watching before you even get any good information on him.
#3- GPS- This device is another great product out to help catch people. They use these for many reasons. GPS is short for Global Positioning system. This system can track your spouse no matter where they may be. It does this by different satellite signals. It will tell you where your spouse has been and how long they were there for. You can check these at anytime on your computer.
#4- Spy- If you have done the above and have found out a few things then now you need to do some spy work. Tell your spouse you are going away for the weekend. Don’t involve your family or friends in this. You will need to complete this on your own. Get a hotel that is near your home and you will need to rent a car. You shouldn’t use your own car because chances are your spouse will spot you, and then you will have some explaining to do and all your work will go down the tubes. Once you have hotel room and a car that looks nothing like yours, you are ready to catch and confront. If you have a small camera then I would take this to. A wig that makes your hair a different color and much longer or shorter would be great. Changes are some proof with pictures will be much needed in court. Park down the street from your house and wait. You should know your spouses routine for this to work or you can find your self waiting a long time. When your spouse leaves follow them. It is best to stay a few car lengths behind them so they don’t spot you and realize whats going on. You will need to prepare your self for what you may see. If your spouse drives to someones house, then park a few houses down from them. Wait a while and they will probably come out of the house and go somewhere. Changes are they will go someone easier if they know you are out of town. When you see them come out together start snapping pictures. You will want some of them walking out of the house and some of any affection they may show. Follow them and see where they go. when you think you have enough proof then you can present them with the photos. If your not ready yet then go back to your hotel.
If you can wait a while before showing them all your proof you have then I would wait. This will give you a change to tie up any lose ends that you may have. If you have any debt I would try and get rid of that first. Seek an attorney if you are able to. They can help you with all the affairs that should be handled. After all this you will come out on top. You can take them for everything they have if it was their fault the marriage ended., This is where the proof will be needed the most. If you show your spouse the pics you took, make sure you have the negatives hid somewhere far away. Chances are they will try and get rid of any proof you may have.