Are we burning our kids out? Listening to some of the schedules of children these days is absolutely exhausting. Kids are under pressure as it is in the school system with everything that has go on over the years. And where they do need outlets, having them overloaded with extracurricular activities could possible stress them out. Are we burning our kids out? It’s time to give our kids an out.
First and foremost our children should be focused on academics. If they do well in academics then certainly they do need outlets and such are encouraged. Try to limit however the number of activities your children participate it. For them to have an activity every day after school, or to not even be able to come home from school because of commitments to activities may not always be healthy.
Granted some of our children are over achievers and thrive by pursuing athletics, organizations, arts, and other activities. Simply have them create a balance. Do we place too much expectation on our children? Are they doing the things that they do to please us? Are we burning our kids out?
There are several ways to tell if we are burning our kids out. Do they express regret or show signs of guilt for possibly wanting to relinquish an activity or a sport? If they are carrying a full load of activities and maintaining top-notch grades, chances are your child may be tired and over committed. Give him or her an out. Sit down with him or her and find out where they stand with each activity.
Check on their grades on a regular basis to determine exactly how balanced their life is. Are we burning our kids out by our expectations of things we may not have accomplished? We may occasionally encourage our children to participate in an activity we may have been interested in at their age but either didn’t have the opportunity or the resources to do. The younger they are the more we have the propensity to encourage them to pursue different activities. God forbid you are a competitive parent. Are we burning our kids out due to our desires or theirs?
Parents it’s time for us to be real with our selves and recognize our children are little people that are under as much pressure as we are, only in a different spectrum. With shootings, drugs, gangs, and other pressures in schools, extracurricular activities are good in their life. Things just need to be kept in perspective. Are we burning our kids out? Well we just have to take things one day at a time and be there for them. Ask them where they stand, respect where they stand, and listen.