Regardless of the best of intentions, some men will not be faithful nor kind. I know how lucky I am to have my man because I was married for 2 years from the age of 18 – 20. I am pretty sure I did most everything right but he was simply an unhappy, restless person and it didn’t matter what I did or didn’t do, he had one foot out the door from the minute we married. However, in the event of being happily married, here is a list of things to not do and to do to keep love burning. I have been sweetly, blissfully married for 20 years and practice what I preach:
Nag- If your married he may not divorce you over your nagging but you’ll lose him emotionally. Men have a fantastic ability to completely shut us out.
Belittle Him- I have heard many women put their man down. If you want to lose him, keep it up. The more you belittle him, the more he will think less and less of you.
Compare him to other men – compare his body, personality, character and anything you want to other men with him having the short end of the stick and your sure to cause him to back away from you in his heart.
Flirt with others – He may get jelous and you may like the fact that he appreciates your prowess but it does nothing for your relationship in the long run. As a matter of fact, every time you flaunt yourself to other men, your building distrust in his heart and it will accumulate to the point where he will eventually not even care and you will have to get more and more dramatic for it to even disturb him and eventually he won’t even bother to notice.
My mama always told me it’s possible to kill love. If you’re a romantic you may not believe that statement but the fact that 50% of all marriages end in divorce will prove it is very possible to kill love. Here are a few things to keep the fire burning:
Forget the saying that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. No way. While he may love a good meal, the way to his heart is straight through his ego. Men like their ego’s fed. They like to be told they are handsome and strong. Focus on all of his masculine qualities and tell him all the time. The more you tell him, the more he will see beautiful things about you.
When he gets you a gift, be excited over it. It doesn’t matter if it’s not your size or you hate it. Jump up and down like a kid and exclaim your love for it. If you do, the presents will never end. Think of how much you love to see little children delight in a gift. You love to get them stuff because they are so happy. Show delight over all and every little gift and your sure to be guaranteed more to come.
When you’re first together, go ahead and set down some ideas. Tell him ahead of time that you never want your birthday forgot and you never want any plug in appliances. Remind him a week or so before any important event with a fun email or note.
Be sweet. Be fun. Laugh out loud. Enjoy life, enjoy him. Be kind. All these things will ensure that the love he felt for you in the beginning will continue. Keep the home fire burning, don’t foolishly put it out.