There will be times when controlling your temper may seem impossible. You may want to tell off the person who just ran over your foot with their shopping cart, but will that really help anything? In most cases no. Losing your temper usually makes things worse rather than solving the problem. The next time you start to lose your temper, use one of these tips.
How to Not Lose Your Temper #1: Ignore What You Can
There are times when saying something just isn’t worth the energy. When you start to lose your temper because your groceries rang up wrong and the cashier is being rude, ignore their attitude. Instead focus on getting the problem fixed. Focusing on something else is a wonderful way to keep you from losing your temper. Do your best to ignore the things that will put you over the edge. More times than not, the things that put you over the edge aren’t the main problem. Deal with the main problem before you lose your temper.
How to Not Lose Your Temper #2: Change the Subject
If you feel that you’re about to lose your temper, change the subject. This is very useful advice when dealing with family members you cannot stand. When they ask why you still haven’t lost that extra weight, change the subject and ask them about their career or some other happy subject. In order to not lose your temper, you must keep other people from losing their temper as well. Asking them why their children are failures will only make things worse.
How to Not Lose Your Temper #3: Walk Away
If you know spending one more minute in a situation will cause you to lose your temper, walk away from that situation. This ensures that you not only maintain your temper but that you also don’t do anything that you’ll regret. Unfortunately, it’s easy to do things that you’ll regret when you lose your temper. If you feel anger bubbling up, get away from that situation. If the person causing such feelings follows you, and continues to bother you, that’s their problem not yours.
How to Not Lose Your Temper #4: Silently Count to Ten
When you start to lose your temper, close your eyes and silently count to ten. While doing this take deep breaths and try to calm yourself down. This seems to work every time. This also works well when combined with tip number three. This tip also works really well at bringing blood pressure back to its normal level.
How to Not Lose Your Temper #5: Drop It
Sometimes you just have to ask yourself, “Is it worth it?” What will losing your temper do to the relationship you have with this person? Is it worth it to risk losing that person as a friend or even a partner? If your relationship is important to you, drop the issue at hand. If you’re about to lose your temper, because someone put an empty milk carton back in the refrigerator, just drop it. It’s not worth it. If the issue is something serious, talk about it in a calm manner; losing your temper will not solve the problem.