If you are a first time parent then you probably dread the idea of leaving your baby for even a short period of time. Parents usually have no problem leaving their new baby with their spouse but when it comes to friends or other relatives they seem to have a difficult time. There is however several things that a you can do in order to overcome this fear. The first thing that you will need to do is mentally prepare yourself. If you are constantly thinking that something bad will happen when you are away then you will never be able to go out and enjoy yourself. After you have prepared yourself as much as possible then your next step would be to find someone who you trust, and who has experience caring for babies. Usually a mother who has kids of her own may help to make you feel at ease. One you have found a person that you trust, you can then decide where you want to go for your night out on the town.
Try not to overdue it for your first time away from the baby. It will probably be best if it is a gradual thing. You can begin by just going out for dinner. By doing this you will only be away from the baby for a few hours. This is just enough time for you and for the baby to get used to you being separated for a while. To also make yourself feel more comfortable you may want to invite the person you selected to baby-sit over to the house to get better acquainted with the baby while you are still there. Once the baby has had an opportunity to bond with the individual you will definitely feel a lot more comfortable when you are ready for your night out. If you have asked a relative to baby sit they may feel that this is a little strange or they may think that you don’t trust them. Take the time to sit and talk to them about how you are feeling. Let them know that it’s just a little separation anxiety that you are experiencing and nothing more than that. This will help to avoid any hard feelings especially if they are a relative, and will help you to avoid losing your babysitter. You should also keep in mind that the baby will probably sleep the majority of the time you are gone, and more then likely once you return home will not even realize that you left.
For newborns there really is not much that they can do besides eat, sleep, and poop. So as long as the individual is capable of caring for those needs with no problem you really don’t have anything to worry about. The bottom line is that you have to find a way to separate yourself from the baby just a bit. This does not in anyway make you a bad parent for wanting a few hours with your spouse, or alone. Some people believe that once you have a baby you will no longer have any time for yourself. This really is just not true. You can still have plenty of time alone together. I am sure that between your family and friends you will be able to find someone trustworthy enough to care for your little bundle of joy.