Surprise someone special by planning a romantic Valentine’s Day evening at home. To pull this off, the romantic day has to be exceptional. This is a day of passion, and love. Lover’s have cried bloody tears and composed music in the name of love. This can be a day to say ‘I love you’ or a day to ask for ones hand in marriage. Love and passion, friendship and joy, happiness and gentleness, or the gentle passion of lovers who are each other’s best friends – a choice makes the day a special one, perhaps to remember for a lifetime. Something romantic often becomes that way because it seems rare, mysterious, mystical, secretive, or protected. Begin this process by creating an air of anticipation for a romantic Valentine’s Day.
Create an Air of Anticipation!
Send a romantic invitation.
Requests the pleasure of
On Wednesday evening, February Fourteenth, at six o’clock
The favor of an answer is requested
Do not include on the invitation that this romantic evening will be at home. Keep this information a secret for now.
Make the invitation a romantic Valentine’s Day card. The outside of the card might read ‘From your Valentine’.
[The legend of St. Valentine:
There are several legends about St. Valentine. In one particular legend, St. Valentine tried to keep the Romans from beating and torturing Christians. Imprisoned and eventually killed because of his efforts, he sent the first Valentine himself. While in prison, he fell in love with his jailor’s daughter. Before his death, he wrote her a letter and signed it ‘From your Valentine’.]
Dab the scent of roses on the Valentine’s Day card to make it more romantic. Find potpourri oils in hobby stores or stores with hobby departments.
[Folklore of roses:
Unlike the few legends of St. Valentine, the folklore of roses seems endless. The following is only one story:
The Greeks link the rose to love, beauty, passion, and purity. Aphrodite was the Greek goddess of love and beauty. Sea foam, dripped from the body of Aphrodite as she was born and turned to white roses, according to the poet Anacreon. White roses symbolize purity and innocence. When she tried to help her wounded lover Adonis, she shed drops of blood onto white roses and turned them red. Thus, red roses represented love and passion.]
An alternative to rose scent is to spray or dab the Valentine’s Day card with perfume or cologne. The main idea is to have a memorable scent. This scent should also be part of the romantic Valentine’s Day event.
Tie a romantic silky ribbon around the Valentine’s Day card. Attach the ribbon to the card so it stays with the card by gluing the ribbon to the back of the card.
Set the Mood for the Romantic Valentine’s Day Evening
Aromas and fragrances often conjure up very vivid memories. Plan to use romantic fragrances and aromas for this occasion. Use scented candles, potpourris, or incense to set the fragrance mood. A romantic Valentine’s Day is for roses so the aromas and fragrances of Roses are usually associated with Valentine’s Day. Other romantic fragrances are Jasmine, Gardenia, and Sandalwood. Jasmine and Gardenia fragrances are more often associated with weddings. Sandalwood is associated with the romanticism of India.
Experiment in the home to see which scents seem to smell best and are easiest to handle.
The sounds of the romantic Valentine’s Day experience are very important also. Beethoven’s “Moonlight Sonata” is a classical example that is beautiful when played during the meal. This allows the couple to enjoy the music and talk.
[History of “Moonlight Sonata”:
Beethoven composed this famous Sonata and dedicated it to Countess Giulietta Guicciardi in 1801. Historians believe they fell in love and he proposed to her, but one of her parents prohibited them from marrying.]
Look around the home to see what romantic music is already available. A couple will often have their favorite music nearby. What one couple considers a romantic song, another couple is not going to like. Following are only some suggestions:
“A Moment Like This” by Kelly Clarkson
“And I Love Her” by The Beatles
“Best of My Love” by the Eagles
“Can’t Take My Eyes Off You” by Frank Valli
“Do You Wanna Dance?” by Johnny Rivers, (this is a fast-paced dancing song)
“Every Breath You Take” by Police
“Have I Told You Lately that I Love You?” by Van Morrison, Rod Stewart
“I Had the Time of My life” by Bill Medley and Jennifer Warnes from the movie Dirty Dancing
“I Just Called To Say I Love You” by Stevie Wonder
“If That’s What It Takes” by Bon Jovi
“I Want You, I Need You, I Love You” by Elvis Presley
“I Will Always Love You” by Whitney Houston
“My Cherie Amour” by Stevie Wonder
“Only Wanna Be With You” by Hootie and the Blowfish
“Rose” by Bette Midler
“Take My Breath Away” by Berlin from the movie Tom Gun
“Unchained Melody” by The Righteous Brothers from the movie Ghost
“Unforgettable” by Nat King Cole, Natalie Cole
“Valentine” by Martina McBride
“You Are So Beautiful” by Joe Cocker
“You Were Wonderful Tonight” by Eric Clapton
What will make this home look more romantic on Valentine’s Day? Set the dining room table for two. Take any extra leaves out of the table; a smaller table is a more intimate table. Make the table as formal as possible. Use a solid-colored cloth tablecloth, preferably, white or off-white. Take advantage of silver or stainless place settings. Make use of fine china. This is for special people, so make it look as impressive as possible. Instead of placing the chairs across from each other, try setting them next to each other. Make sure both people have a romantic view.
Set out lots of candles to create a romantic mood. Turn the lights out. Romance has been around much longer than Edison. Perhaps, some lights are romantic but candles are the real thing. Keep lit candles away from flammable materials and leaving them unattended is dangerous. Moonlight or starlight is even more romantic than candlelight!
The centerpiece should include roses. The first instinct may be to order a dozen red roses for the perfect romantic Valentine’s Day, but check the symbolism of roses just in case.
[Symbolism of roses:
A single red rose means, “I love you”.
Two red roses entwined is a promise of engagement.
Red roses are for love and passion but also respect.
Yellow roses are for friendship and joy.
Pink roses mean friendship or sweetheart or happiness and gentleness
Combining Red, Yellow and Pink roses stands for the ideal relationship – the gentle passion of lovers who are each other’s best friends.
White roses symbolize true love and purity of the mind; young girls, who are too young for the passion of red roses, customarily receive white roses. Combine white roses with red roses to symbolize harmony, unity and pure love.
Peach roses symbolize a desire to get to know each other better.
Purple roses mean love at first sight. Combine these two for the perfect flowers to give on a first date or on a first Valentine’s Day.]
Please order roses early. The day before Valentine’s Day is usually too late. Allow no less than a week, preferably more time if possible. (Contact the florist.) Florists appreciate a considerate customer.
The Invitation or romantic Valentine’s Day card was the first experience of touch with the romantic silky ribbon. When that special person sees the same silky ribbon on the dining table at home, they will remember the romantic Valentine’s Day card. Use the romantic ribbon as napkin rings and make use of it in your centerpiece.
The tablecloth, the utensils, the glasses, the napkins all contribute to the sense of touch. Do not be afraid to set a rose or two out, tie them with a ribbon, and allow them to be touched. During the meal, finger food will add to the sense of touch.
This is home, touch can be shared with kisses and…wait, wait…first the meal.
On Valentine’s Day, people often try to include aphrodisiacs in their lists of food to eat. The word aphrodisiac comes from Aphrodite, the name of the Greek goddess of sexual love and beauty. Because Aphrodite was of the sea, things related to Aphrodite include a relationship to the sea. Therefore, consider most food from the sea as aphrodisiacs. Oysters are the most famous of these. As a rule, aphrodisiacs are very healthy foods.
Oysters are healthy seafood that includes high amounts of zinc. Legend is that Casanova ate 50 raw oysters every morning.
Wine is an aphrodisiac, perhaps because a few glasses reduce inhibitions. However, more than a couple of glasses make most people very sleepy. Red wine contains antioxidants. If both people are at home, no designated driver needed. So stay home!
Horseradish pulp is supposedly another aphrodisiac. Horseradish is one of the main ingredients in shrimp cocktail sauce. Shrimp from the sea along with this sauce made with so much horseradish should be a wonderful aphrodisiac.
Chocolate was the Aztecs “nourishment of the Gods”. It has more antioxidants than red wine. Try dark chocolate with a glass of Cabernet.
Caviar, celery, chili, garlic, liquorice, mustard, vanilla and asparagus are other foods considered aphrodisiacs.
Pineapple, strawberries, raspberries and grapes are all finger food aphrodisiacs. What is more romantic than feeding these to each other?
A Final Note
Whatever the meal, both participants should be fresh and ready to enjoy themselves. A full course meal with a tired and exhausted participant is not very enjoyable for either person. Make it fun. Enjoy! Eat, drink, and be merry! Have a Happy Valentine’s Day at home!