Ask 100 men if they would like to see the love of their life give them a sexy striptease, and you’ll get 100 excited, confused “Is this a trick question? Hell yes!” looks. Ask 100 women the same thing, and you get a whole bunch of awkward, embarrassed women.
The art of strip tease has a heavy stigma in Western culture and many women connect it with the dirtiest, sluttiest images they can conjure. But that’s unfortunate, because a strip tease can be erotic and classy at the same time. It’s a great experience to learn to appreciate your own sensuality and they beauty of your body. And it’s hands-down (and clothes-off) a steamy gift for your significant other.
The most important thing is to remind yourself of how sexy you are and can be. Don’t allow yourself to think, “Oh, that’s not me. I wish I were Demi Moore, but I could never pull that off like she does.” Remember, if your man likes seeing you naked and in lingerie, he’ll love a sexy little strip. He’s loves your body and the greatest gift you can give yourself is to see your body the way he sees it.
To feel your sexiest, start with classic siren attire: stocking, garter belt, and matching bra and panties. Avoid a thong – the point is to reveal your skin a little at a time, so sexy lace tangas or bikinis are more fun. It’s very important to get your right size. If you feel uncomfortable, you won’t feel sexy. So, if that garter belt/vest feels too confining, go up a size. The whole outfit could cost between $50 and a few hundred, depending on where you shop.
Now, pick a song you love to move to. It should have a strong back beat and suggestive lyrics. “Pour Some Sugar on Me” and “Cherry Pie” are stripper classics, but pick something that’s totally your style. Maybe some sensual Portishead or use Prince’s idea of “control.” Let yourself get to know the song, dance around to it, be goofy. Notice where the cool riffs, beats, and other key moments begging for specific moves are.
Finally, spontaneity is one of the key ingredients for sexy stripping. Take your man completely by surprise. Wear your lingerie underneath your regular work attire. Unless your regular work attire is a camo-jump suit, then opt for a sweet white button down, pencil skirt and slip-on heels.
Have your song cued so when you call your man with instructions, he can have it playing when you walk in. Tell him to sit down and no touching. Handcuff him to the chair if you have to. Let yourself draw confidence from the song and the knowledge that he’s now speechless with your sexual prowess.
Walk around like you own everything, including him. Look him dead in the eyes and channel as much confidence and fire as possible. Strut with one leg in front of the other, occasionally posing with your hips slightly twisted and one leg in front to make you look long and lean. Toy with the buttons on your shirt, run your hands over your body and touch yourself where you know he wants to touch you.
The key to stripping is the tease. So tease! Don’t just take off your clothes. Go slowly. Linger over every button as your hands travel down the front of your shirt. Stop halfway down and leave him hanging. When you finally get everything unbutton, turn your back to him. Slide the shirt off one shoulder and look back. Slowly slide the shirt off your arms and turn around, but hold the shirt in front of you so he still can’t see your bra. When you decide he’s frustrated enough, throw your shirt off to the side.
Use the same idea with your skirt and remaining garments as you move around the room. If dancing makes you uncomfortable, don’t force it. Just move. Sway, turn around, strut strong. Move behind him so he can’t see you. Stand between his legs, sit in his lap, touch him all you want, but never let him touch you.
Draw your confidence from the desire that will undoubtedly be shooting like fireworks from his eyes. He’s not allowed to touch, so your hands are his hands. When you roll your stocking down or run your hands across your stomach, he’s experiencing it vicariously. So jazz it up and stay classy, and he’ll thank you in some very fulfilling ways!