New moms who live within driving distance of their mother-in-law may experience something disheartening: the loss of Mother’s Day. Somehow, new moms do not have a say in what goes on on Mother’s Day, even though it is supposed to be a day for all moms.
When you live close to your mother-in-law, Mother’s Day for you ceases to exist, and it unofficially becomes Mother-in-Law’s Day.
Forget any plans you might have for your own family, the one living under your roof. Forget the quiet early Sunday morning brunch with your family. Who cares that you had your own plans for later that day? Those plans might have involved the whole family, or they might haveincluded and hour or two of quality me time for mom.
It does not matter what you, as a new mom had planned. You and your family will be at your mother-in-law’s bidding. You will be told when dinner is, what time you should be there, and oh, by the way, you owe money for the limo.
The limo? It’s Mother’s Day, oh, Mother-in-Law’s Day, not a wedding or a funeral. What’s with the limo?
The only thing more annoying than having to give in and celebrate someone else’s idea of Mother’s Day, is having to partake in an over-the-top, overly expensive, long and boring day.
One Mother’s Day our family did just that. What could have been a leisurely hour or hour and a half homemade brunch or Sunday dinner turned into an all-day even that cost hundreds of dollars for a cheesy limo, bad food (from arestaurant that is now closed), and another hour or two of socializing . Add on to that the need to cook another meal, because the kids wouldn’t eat from the one or two dishes they could have on the $20/plate special Mother’s Day menu.
Isn’t it enough that mother-in-laws take over Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter and all the fun summer holidays? Is there one day that mothers get that does not have to be controlled by the mother-in-law?
So why do it? Moms have been putting up with Mother-in-Law’s Day because we love our husbands. It’s as simple as that.
This year, let’s make it different. If you’re a mom, do what you want to do on your day. It’s a day for you. One day to be a little selfish. Or, as selfish as you can while you’re a mom. Do what you want on Mother’s Day, with or without your family. Get up early, sleep late. Spend the day at the park or the movies, or shopping with the girls. Spend the day alone with your kids.
Whatever you do, don’t let this Mother’s Day turn into Mother-in-Law’s Day.