We hear all the time about Deadbeat Dad’s, but what about the other side of the coin? There are plenty of great fathers out there who are waiting on thousands of dollars of child support from Deadbeat Mom’s. They are struggling to support their children while their ex-wife or -girlfriend is has fled in the wind. While men are traditionally the bread-winners in families, Mom’s have to take responsibility too. Here are a few tips on how to track her down.
Track Down a Deadbeat Mom: Contact Family
Although they may not be willing to help you, they might be more supportive once you explain the situation. Women and men alike are known to run to their families when times get tough or when they’re trying to escape, which might be the case with your child’s mother. Call relatives, friends and old business colleagues and just ask if they’ve seen her. This works especially well if she has family scattered in many different areas; she might not think you’d look for her in Hart County, Kentucky.
Track Down a Deadbeat Mom: Hire a Private Investigator
I hate to say this, but child support enforcement authorities are probably not going to be much help. If there’s evidence that your child’s mother has fled the state, they won’t put much energy into finding her, and although it’s a terrible double standard, they are sometimes more inclined to help women looking for Deadbeat Dad’s. To find her in a hurry, hire a private investigator. He or she can work full-time on your case, often yielding much better results. Just make sure that the P.I. is licensed and has references to back up his or her work.
Track Down a Deadbeat Mom: Trail Forwarding Addresses
You can usually find forwarding addresses at the post office, and this might give you a clue as to where she’s gone. If she’s intent on disapearing, she might not have left a forwarding address, but you should also check with the phone and electricity company. This is especially helpful if your divorce is not final yet, but even if you’ve never been married, you’ll be surprised at the kind of information you can dig up.
Track Down a Deadbeat Mom: Visit the Agency
Just because the child support enforcement agency in your area isn’t doing its job doesn’t mean you can’t give them a little incentive. I would advice visiting the courthouse or the place where they are located at least once a week to check on progress and to provide any leads you might have uncovered. If anyone is rude to you or fails to act in a manner that’s acceptable, don’t hesitate to complain about their service. The child support enforcement agency’s job is to collect your child support, so insist that they do their job.
Track Down a Deadbeat Mom: A Few Extra Tips
— Keep adequate records showing exactly what you are owed from month to month.
— Subscribe to an online database to see if you can find a current address.
— Dont do anything illegal, such as stalk your child’s mother or invade her home.
— Keep a journal that details the extent of your search so you don’t unwittingly repeat a step.
— Talk with former and current employers; they might be helpful if you explain the situation.
— Don’t threaten family members or friends; you could wind up behind bars.
— File a lawsuit for the child support arears.