Some people will decide to adopt a child this year as part of their New Year Resolution. When doing so, there are some helpful information to consider to assist you in the process. It is important to know that adoption is the permanent legal transfer of parenting rights and responsibilities from one person or family to another. It really refers to a birth parent, for example, giving-up the legal right of a child to another adult through mutual acceptable agreement under City, State and Federal Laws in America.
Some of the main types of adoption procedures entail public adopting, private agency, independent process, kinship adoption, and stepparent procedures. The public adoption occurs when children in the public welfare system are placed in permanent homes by government operated agencies. When children are placed in non-relative homes through the services of licensed non-profit or for-profit agencies, this is private agency adoption. In independent adoptions, children are placed in relatives and non-relatives homes directly by birth parents through the services of either a medical doctor, a member of the clergy, an attorney or licensed facilitator. It is important to know that independent adoption is not legal in some States in America. For Kinship adoption to take place, children are placed in relatives’ homes with or without the services of a public agency. When children are adopted by the spouse of one parent, then stepparent adoption occurs. The above information is essential because each individual or prospective parents, will need to determine which adoption procedure will relevant in their personal situation.
Child abuse, neglect, poverty, abandonment, the death of parents, or the inability of birth parents to care for their child/children, will facilitate the need for adoption. Children are adopted within a City and State, from within the same country or from a foreign country – also called inter country adoption. It is important and advisable that adoptive parents talk about adoption with their adopted child/children. In so doing, they should be honest without burdening the children with more information than they are able to cope with at a given time. Dealing with the children’s emotions about adoption that will occur at different stages of their understanding is recommended. They should also decide about what information must or may be shared with siblings and friends, and determine what are very personal and private family information not to shared outside the family because it is for the adopted child/children only.
Within the broader family, with close friends and within the community where the adopted child/children live, there are other people feelings, attitudes, and responses to deal with. Many of these will be positive, but some will be negative towards the adoptive parents and child. Therefore, in dealing with the impressions of others, parents will need to correct all relevant misconceptions and prejudicial comments, prevent the child from and avoid personal attacks on the child, encourage positive conversations about the adoption, teach the child/children about how best to deal with victimization, and look-out for the daily opportunities to educate others about the values and benefits of adoption in a very sensitive and responsible manner.
For the adoption to have mutual and prosperous benefits for both the parent and child, the parent will need to consider some other issues. Some of these include their real and sincere belief in the adoption and their ability to honestly commit to the adoption. The parent patience and perseverance will need to be consistent and mature in order to avoid stress and frustration. A genuine love for children and parenting are absolutely compulsory. The maturity to accept a child without criticism I also important because this is where real acceptance of the child regardless of his/her personal characteristics, mental and personal features become very critical to the parent and child. The submissive will to learn new parenting responsibilities associated with the child needs, and the acceptance of any special medical and educational needs of the child, for example, and especially after the adoption is completed, are also important. There are others but these are also very important.
Adoption is therefore a very essential and life-changing event in the life of anyone. Those who are planning and hoping to adopt must have a genuine love for children, know the laws concerning adopting and be willing to learn about new parenting skills in the interest of the child and family. The other factors stated above are also important.