This year is the 40th anniversary of Mildred and Richard Lovings battle against Virginia’s laws against interracial marriage that was won by supreme court. This case allowed them to live in peace without the law imposing their ideals on their personal life. Even though the law was passed in many states to allow this union, it is the people of society that imposes disdain for the couples making life unbearable about a subject that isn’t of any business of theirs. Despite the usual torment the couples receive there has been a rise in interracial marriage two years ago to 7.5 % according to the Stanford University. Most of these unions were between black and white being the largest, Asian and White coming in second, and Latin and non Hispanic White People coming in third. Now and then other cultures follow suit as Native American and Black or Native American and White, Latin American and Black,as well as Asian and Black couples. This is a sign of the obvious fact which continuously stares us all in the eye, yet in denial we slouch with our arms crossed in defiance holding our breath until we turn blue, and hollering like babies whenever the truth tries to corner us. These couples only state that they have found a significant other who is suitable as person for friendship, dating and marriage. All relationships should have begun straight from the chemistry two people have toward each other when talking to the person is easy, you both know exactly what to talk about, you have things in common, the person is special in your eyes, the presence of that person makes you look forward to it happening again and again. I have tried to figure out the reason behind others daft-a-ability to comprehend why people of difference accents, colors, age, or weight would think of getting together.
Perhaps it could be the old cultural oral tradition of tales everyone has heard and decided to believe even when dragons don’t really exist or the easter bunny it still makes people feel good to hold on to such thoughts. Yet, I can’t imagine how the stress of disliking someone who is different and not hurting you ersonally could make a person ‘Happy’. The best way to understand in a non stressful way how anyone could be so brave as to marry someone ‘They’ wouldn’t possibly want is that it is preference. It is not the kind of preference that goes straight for the ‘shock of it’ that is truly beautiful about the union. It is the fact that they choose the person over any factor that causes everyone else’s concern. It’s about falling in love with that person you feel is your equal. Why wouldn’t anyone want to fall in love with someone who is nothing more than a color, peer, church member, co-worker, or from your country. The whole idea should make you yawn to have someone pick out your mate, your friends, your clothes, your cosmetic surgery, your major in college, the course you should take, your underwear, your home, your car, the city you should live in, your hair style, your religion, the money you should make, the charities you will give to, how much weight you should lose, the names for your babies, your dental work, your exercise schedule, the movies you watch, the books you read, your favorite color, what color to dye your hair, et.c. is enough to make one want to steer away from control freaks like that. PLEASE…don’t become one or else karma will enjoy bringing it back to you. For those who don’t know. Karma is when what ever you dish out comes back to you, so make good things be your
Interracial Couples and Cross-Cultural Couples
Two people from separate racial or I prefer cultural nationalities who are involved romantically by dating or marriage due to the fact that they share common values, and interests which should be viewed as the most important foundation for relationships in general. It is not not the color or the culture that play an important role in the attraction of these couples even though those factors do play a part in some choices people make. Nor is it the issue of an accent that is the only important attribute to some ones character. It is the person as a whole and the chemistry ease between two people that makes their union so sublime. It makes one look back to William Shakespeare’s “Romeo and Juliet’ that really seem to explain the controversial issue of interracial relationships due to the stigmatic line that racist bigotry has placed between people to determine who is superior or inferior. This can also occur in different countries who due to some character flaws of American tourists’ behavior would make the parents of the old country stand firmly against marrying an American. They have stricter laws and etiquette in other countries that Americans don’t have, yet don’t think about when visiting other countries. All is not lost when the subject of mail-order brides are concerned when European and American men seek to arrange marriage to a foreign women from across the ocean. The most important factor is that the couple can chat for hours, laugh, hang around each other and cry together with the strong foundation of friendship that sustains them for years to come. One should not think of Interracial or Cross-Cultural is a shallow view of love that can never be real enough to be sustained. It was said years ago in a study of these couples that they tend to make sure the foundation is strong due to the discrimination they experience.
Biracial and Multiracial Individuals
These individuals are the offspring of interracial and Cross cultural unions who share two or more unique cultural backgrounds that produce the
most interesting and often beautifully exotic appearances that the average common homely people envy sometimes most hatefully. It has been
said that children from these backgrounds tend to have an even personality balance more than the all white or all black child. The public often
makes them feel very strange for being different, and they struggle to find the rightful place to fit in. There is good news for all the offspring from
interracial and cross cultural marriages that is mind over matter. Meaning, the most important thing to consider for everyone should be the
personal character, interests, values, and chemistry ease that you feel with a person is what makes a person a suitable friend or partner. That is
called the Mind part. The Matter part is the insignificant issues that has nothing to do with the subject on the whole which is the issue of color or
cultural nationality. The person on every level should be more important than the shade of skin, accent, or general physical appearance. It is still
a good unique feature to have some useful and interesting cultural beliefs
to share to make life more interesting.
These are families where the interracial or cross cultural couples have children , yet this is the basic example. Couples who are of the same background can have children and adopt children from different countries which is known as Trans-racial Adoption. One fact to consider is that all babies from around the world speak the same babble no matter what the cultural language is. Children are children no matter what color or country they are from or language they speak. I have had the pleasure of seeing a few of these families who are beautiful to look at as a symbol of humanity as one entity undivided. Good examples of this are Josephine Baker, Pearl S. Buck, Angelina Jolie, and Madonna. Josephine Baker was a talented performer and artist who adopted 12 children of different ethnic backgrounds to prove to the world how ridiculous racism and discrimination really is. All of her children traveled with her, and was happy. Pearl S. Buck adopted 10 children which according to the documentary some were of different cultural backgrounds. Angelina Jolie is an Ambassador who adopted one African child, two Asian Children and had one of her own. Madonna adopted an African child, her first born is of Latin-Italian origin, and her son is of English Italian origin. After all the hatred and meaningless bigotry it is nice to see families who live like a normal family yet look like a colorful vision of beauty and love. It is not as if they are trying to get attention they simply wanted a family.
Children from different countries are adopted by people over seas who are sometimes of different colors or from cultures different from their own. Nevertheless, the only thing that truly matters is that these children are hardly ever taken away from the couple like here in American where it doesn’t seem to matter how many feeling get hurt in the process of playing with the lives of children deliberately fooling prospective parents who wish to adopt. Adopting trans-racially involves getting the information known to the proper American authorities, traveling and attending court while visiting the child, and bringing the child home. The child is a child and needs a loving home that is not limited only to color. What it all boils down to is that children can function well in a good home. It is never the marriage or the home especially when they are doing the Right thing. It is always the Neanderthal public who causes unnecessary strain on the happiness of others. It is highly unlikely that doing what everyone wants you to do will please them at all. It’s best to have a family, and do what is best for that family despite the babble from the idiots of the world. One woman adopted an Korean little girl and took her to the grocery store with her and her other children. People stared at her, and she said aloud ” Yes they are all mine”. It is okay to ask how to stuff a turkey, how to make crab cakes, how to make lasagna or a pannini, but don’t ask how why a person adopted a child from a different country. It is obviously not about the country, but a child addition to the family to make it whole. There are stigmas to women who cannot conceive their own children , but the option of adoption when IVF doesn’t work is a miracle.
I hope that the subject of the importance of people in the sense of mind over matter is comprehend-able in that the character is a valid reason to fall in love with a person, and the child is more important than the ‘race’ or cultural nationality. I belief the song of the 80’s said it best with the lyrics “people are people so why should it be, you and I should get along so awfully ” by Depeche Mode. It is not so hard to understand that someone could actually be blind to the matter of color and cultural features, deaf to the matter of accent and language, and slow to understanding why all those issues are so important when it really isn’t. Yet, all those attributes of language, culture, accents, and color are beautiful enough to learn about as unique features that contributes to the whole person worth falling in love with to marry or to adopt as a permanent member of your family until the end of time.