This may rock the traditional holiday boat. I hope I’m not challenging the long held belief about it merely being an official day to take Mom to breakfast or dinner. Buy Mom a Hallmark greeting card. Pick her up some fragrant roses. Take her to the movies. Give her the day off from house cleaning. Cook dinner. Yes, all very nice. Yes, all quite polite, however, is it really meaningful?
Can’t we offer her something more?
What you ask? Well, that’s all very much up to each family. Maybe your Mom can’t seem to find the time to catch up on a favorite hobby. So you offer to give her a break and cook dinner that day or hey perhaps even for the week. It’s certainly a start. You could offer to do that same chore for a lot longer. Perhaps even volunteer to do it indefinitely so that Mom can get back to her crafting or needlepoint or whatever it is that she’s been missing doing.
We all can agree that Mother’s Day has become almost boringly routine. Restaurant chains like Denny’s and IHOP and the local grub joints love the holiday, because they know the majority of families will trot Mom and the rest of the clan to their eatery to have that special breakfast or some other meal. There’s nothing really wrong with that, but it becomes almost robotic. The act becomes a perfunctory exercise in fulfilling some holiday obligation because it’s mostly what every other family does for dear old Mom.
I’d love to supply a long list of effectively snappy ways in which to honor Mom more substantially, but again this is a very personal thing. I have a friend whose Mother is disabled. Her days are fraught with the difficulty of dealing with life in general, let alone facing it physically challenged. Should her family make Mother’s Day something more because of just that fact? Not necessarily. But certainly she’d benefit from something more than just a Rooty Tooty Fresh ‘N Fruity at IHOP.
On the other hand, often the smallest of gestures like a personal note or greeting card can do wonders to lift up our morale. A physical representation of thought or sentiment like a big bouquet of flowers stays with Mom for a few weeks and it could make all the difference to her state of mind if she’s been feeling down. Maybe the core of what I’m trying to say is that if you take Mom for that meal or pick up that box of chocolates, make sure she’s well aware of how meaningful she is to you. Like they say, it’s not the gift that counts, it’s the thought. All too often, our thoughts are lost in the shuffle of celebration meals and presents.
Don’t let your thoughts play second fiddle to your gift.