Family is an important part of our lives. Often, for many individuals, the need for family support and attention is crucial to a healthy emotional and psychological aspect of life. When experiencing a situation where there is discord or turmoil with a sibling, it is important to mend these issues of the past and move forward into a stronger and healthier relationship.
In many sibling disputes, there is often a rift created between and among family members. While we know and expect the sibling dispute to create hardship and emotional complications in the individuals who are directly involved, it is the affect the sibling rivalry has on other siblings that is often most difficult to face.
When seeking a method to best resolve your own sibling rivalry, it is important to first contemplate and really focus on what the issues of concern were and how they can be dismissed and laid to rest, allowing for a more healthy relationship in the future. Often, sibling rivalry and disputes are centered on contrasting belief systems. For many siblings, giving in and conceding to the dispute sends a message of “lose or win”. However, if we focus on the idea of healing, rather than the dispute, we can begin to lose this idea that winning or losing is no longer the issue of concern.
Beyond focus, your next step, in resolving a sibling dispute, involves the careful analysis of the positive attributes of your sibling. Using a sheet of paper, write down the positive attributes your sibling has and even write down personality and physical traits that are unique and different to your own life. Understanding our siblings are different and unique from us, even though you may be from the same blood, is important to appreciating them as individuals.
The differences with your sibling should be considered gifts to your life. Accept the sibling is different and make an effort to consciously discontinue the arguing, bickering and competing with the sibling.
Once you’ve carefully contemplated your differences and unique attributes of your sibling, it is time to reach out and repair the relationship. Avoid using e-mail and phone as a method of contact as the resolution of sibling rivalry is best achieved through personal, one-on-one contact. While not all sibling rivalries will be easy to resolve, making this effort to meet with the sibling, and express your appreciation for you they are and how they impacted your life positively, will work to mend the relationship and lay to rest the issues and disputes of the past.