With every passing year, it is ever more apparent the commercialization of holidays. Valentines day has become more about the presents we receive than the thoughtfulness we put into it. The meaning at times seems to get lost in the rush to get the “perfect gift”. It happens to us all from one holiday to the next. This holiday however places such emphasis on purchasing extravagant gifts to show how much you love a person. When if you think about it how much you have isn’t a particularly good indicator of how much you care or love another person.
I recall the simple pleasures of the day, especially as a young child in elementary school. Eagerly anticipating my box, or envelope in which i decorated for the occasion to be filled. Not with fancy jewelry, gift cards, or anything extravagant. Perhaps it was the satisfaction of giving and receiving that made it so special. I recall that anybody who was anybody purchased cards that they would give to almost everybody in the classroom. It was fun to select a cartoon, or a funny message to send to a friend or that girl you thought was cute and had no idea why. Valentines day was not about the quantity at all, it was about quality. Some holidays discussions between children usually are about quantity, “how much did you get?” And it just sucks the fun out of the holiday in my opinion. As a child however it was a great feeling of anxiety and not the kind you have waiting for the dentist, the butterflies in your stomach good kind of anxiety or nervousness. We all had to be brave and walk up to each other and wish them a “happy Valentines Day!” It was not forced we all got our friends a card because, it was fun and part of tradition. If you were part of the lucky few you did receive candy from your good friends.
It is this simple pleasure that i remember so well. I am still young, but once i started dating i noticed a drift between the fond memories as a child, and the pressure I felt, as I became older. It was more about making everything perfect, when that isn’t how a relationship is at all. Relationships, even good ones has its ups and downs. I like to think about relationships like a train, for the most part its a smooth ride, there is time to make repairs that need to be done, and work has to be put in to work well. To be honest my girlfriend never put the pressure upon me at the time, it was coming from the stores with their sales, and seductive lure of chocolates and skimpy outfits. Why is it that we all fall for the perceived one-day of perfection? Are we all in relationships that are only good for one day? It is my belief that you should try your best to show how you care about your special person all the time, but maybe i am the minority. I don’t just say “I love you” I make an effort to show it, by opening doors, giving an honest compliment, or cooking dinner and doing all the dishes all simple things that any person can do that wont show up on their credit card statement.
I enjoy holidays for the meanings and lessons they can teach us. They have the power and the ability to change people. I basically wish that everyday was a holiday. Pressure aside, when you really get that warm feeling that seems to surround you and you cannot help but smile and be kind, that is when the holidays are a great time. Think about a fond holiday memory and how perfect it is in your own minds. It might be the loving feelings, or the aromas of chocolates, or baked goods, whatever it is about a particular holiday especially in this instance Valentines Day hold onto that memory and try to make it apart of your new outlook. Remember the simple fun that can be had, because you cannot put a price on that, you cannot find that at the mall or on an Ebay auction. It is inside all of us and nobody can ever take that away.