Did you know that the number one New Years Resolution of Americans is to lose weight? How many times have you made a list of resolutions for the New Year and within a matter of days broke your promise to yourself? I don’t know about you, but I know I have. In fact I have probably never stuck to a New Years resolution. Well some of them I have. I even quit making New Years resolutions for a while. Why do something you won’t stick to?
Here is how, and here is how not to.
Number one, don’t set yourself up for failure. Don’t make a list of a hundred things that you are going to stop doing, or to start doing. It is overwhelming and not realistic.
Number two, really think about what you seriously want to give up or start. For instance, I wanted to start being more positive. I wanted to start resting more. I am workaholic. This is a trait that most people really admire. It sounds good, unfortunately it isn’t good for your health. It is also rather egotistical. I know that if I die tonight, the world will actually continue to go on. You wouldn’t think so the way I have to do so much, all by myself! I would hope people would grieve over me, but I know that they actually would continue living and loving without me here. It’s not very flattering, but it is true, contrary to my ego.
Make one resolution that you really want to keep. Let’s just say that you really want to quit smoking. You have tried before but couldn’t. Find someone or a group that will support you through it. Go to a doctor and get help medically. Maybe a patch or nicotine gum will help you. Find a replacement for the smoking. For me it was sucking on hard candy for about a year. My mouth got sore, and I had to have dental work, but if I would have used sugar free it wouldn’t have been as bad and I felt so good about doing it.
Whatever you choose to do, remember to reward yourself. Promise yourself something. Even if the replacement for quitting smoking, or overeating costs money, don’t include the cost of it into the savings. Put back the money that you would’ve spent on cigarettes or alcohol, candy, whatever, and save it. Of course this may be another resolution, saving money. Ha! But if you promise yourself that if you stick to this, you can buy yourself something you really want with the money, it will be an incentive to stick to it.
If you fall of the horse, get back on. Don’t give up if you blow it. I know when I can stick to a resolution I feel better about myself. I also have to remind myself that I don’t have to start a resolution just the first of January. Sometimes I just get so sick of not doing something that I should do, or doing something I shouldn’t do, that I am ready to change.
Drinking was one of those things. I didn’t quit in January, I actually quit in July. I had a lot of motivation, because of problems in my family and seeing how my ex-husbands’ drinking was destroying our lives, so I was able to quit. I had plenty of group support, and felt like I was helping myself and my kids. It was’t easy, but not as hard as I would have expected. I had replacements, healthy, supportive group and individual help. I am so glad I quit when I did, because I was on shakey ground.
Also remember that whatever you decide to do, or not do, you only have to do it “One Day at a Time,” not for the rest of your whooolllleeee life! Just “One Day at a Time.” I can do anything for just one day of my life. It breaks this down to smaller segments. It is not so overwhelming. For example I can live without chocolate, for an hour, maybe even a day. I don’t have to think of living without it for the rest of my life. If you continue to to that, before long you will realize that you lived without it for days, months and years. I am not there on the chocolate yet, but I am on smoking and drinking. Those are some big hurdles. I feel better about myself for it.
Remember to replace the bad with something good. Pray and meditate, and talk to others who are trying to replace some nasty habits. It really helps.
So these are just a few thoughts and suggestions for trying to stick to your New Years Resolutions. I hope you and I can both do it, and feel like we have accomplished something new and healthy this year. Good luck and Happy New Year!!