Stay-at-home moms may not get a lot of chances to go off on their own for a few hours. Even less frequent is the opportunity to be away from home, and without a baby in toddler in tow for most of a day.
Because stay-at-home moms spend a lot of physical, emotional, and mental energy on taking care of one or more little ones, many things can go through your head the day before you will be away. Stay-at-home moms want to ensure their baby or toddler is receiving the same loving level of care that he or she receives every day.
The person watching the baby when you are gone could be your spouse, or a a close relative. Dads do not get to spend that much time with toddlers and babies, so they are probably looking forward to the opportunity to have some bonding time.
Moms, meanwhile, are thinking of all the things they normally do for the baby and want to make sure the baby is properly cared for while we are away. We don’t want them exposed to too much cold. Baby needs his hat when he goes out. He should have milk from a certain cup. He likes to watch his favorite PBS show during lunch. He uses the blueblanket for nap.
There are some important things, we as moms, need to remind ourselves of, when we do have the rare occasion to be away from our little ones for a couple of hours. Keeping these important things in mind will make your trip go more easily, and will not cause undue strain on your relationship with the other caretaker in your family. This is especially important when that other caretaker is your love or your spouse.
You may be tempted to make a written list, or rattle off a bunch of instructions for your spouse before you go. Stop yourself before you do this. Your spouse will either laugh at your or be slightly offended that you have so little faith in his abilities.
If it makes you feel better, ask your spouse if he needs to know where certain supplies are kept, or if he has any questions about baby’s current preferences before you go.
Just because your spouse does not spend as much time with the baby or toddler does not mean he does not know how to take care of him or her. This might not be his first time around the parenting track, either.
Different is Not Wrong
Just because you and your spouse do things differently, does not make one way or the other wrong. This is something that parents need to learn. It can be especially difficult for stay-at-home moms to accept this because we do so many things the same way three or four times a day. We do them because they work.
Your spouse may do things differently when it comes to caring for your little one. This does not mean it’s wrong. There is more than one way to do things.
As stay-at-home moms we need to remember that our way is just that, our way. We should not try to control how our spouse cares for our child. It may be difficult to let go of this kind of control,because you have so much invested. It is important to start the process now, because life will be full of situations that we as parents, cannot control.