Saturday, May 20, 2006
1:25 PM – Win in Love/Life! Aim for Your Kin-Stead!
Current mood: Realisticly Utopian
Category: Realisticly Utopian Romance and Relationships
To Be Nice, One Must First Know When It’s Not-Right-to-‘Be-Nice.’
(‘Kin-stead’? … I wanted to say ‘homestead,’
but that’d prob`ly make you think of a husband/wife-
team on a farm in the plains So I thought to say ‘Kin,’ but I don’t want
you to think of going to family-reunions to check-
The following was a bulletin posted by one of my friends. At first reading it, I agreed (mostly because I’m a nice guy, taking ‘it’ only when ‘it’ is given).
But on re-reading it, I realized why girls aren’t climbing over each other to give ‘it’ to me: in so-many words, because nice guys do finish last!
A nice guy will treat the hot girl right, but a not-so-nice guy will more-likely have the power to keep her sheltered and fed and clothed.
See the way I put it in response to the bulletin below:
—————– Bulletin Message ————-
From: Tha Ldylove *Kisses* Back To Tha Old Me
Date: May 19, 2006 5:41 PM
Don’t assume that guys won’t care where you are, because we do.
IT MAKES US FEEL SO SECURE TO KNOW THAT OUR GIRLFRIEND ISNT OFF FLIRTING WITH GUYS WE’VE NEVER HEARD OF!!
We don’t care if you talk to other guys.
We don’t care if you’re friends with other guys.
But when you’re sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off.
It doesn’t help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we’re still there.
We don’t care if a guy calls you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned. Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. that it can’t wait till the morning.
Also, when we tell you you’re pretty/ beautiful/ gorgeous/ cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it.
Don’t tell us we’re wrong.
We’ll stop trying to convince you.
The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence.
Yeah, you can quote me.
Don’t be mad when we hold the door open.
Take Advantage of the mood im in.
LET US PAY FOR YOU!
DON’T “FEEL BAD”
We enjoy doing it.
Smile and say “thank you.”
Kiss us when no one’s watching.
If you kiss us when you know nobody’s looking we’ll be more impressed.
You don’t have to get dressed up for us.
If we’re going out with you in the first place, you don’t have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own.
We like you for WHO you are and not WHAT you are.
honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she’s just in her pj’s. or my tshirt and boxers, not all dolled up
don’t flirt with guys when were not with you.
We have eyes everywhere.
And when we find out, we’re pissed.
Not necessarily with the guys you flirted with, more-so with YOU.
Don’t take everything we say seriously.
Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.
Don’t get angry easily.
Stop using magazines/media as your bible.
Don’t talk about how hott Morris Chesnutt, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartny is in front of us.
It’s boring, and we don’t care.
You have girlfriends for that.
Whatever happened to the word “handsome”/”beautiful”
I’d be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with “Hey handsome!” instead of “Hey baby/ stud/ cutie/ sexy” or whatever else you can think of.
on the other hand im not sayin i wouldn’t like to be called the other names either ; )
Girls, I cannot stress this enough:
**************IF YOU AREN’T BEING TREATED RIGHT BY A GUY, DON’T WAIT FOR HIM TO CHANGE. DITCH HIS SORRY, DISGRACE-TO-THE-MALE-POPULATION ASS, AND FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL TREAT YOU WITH UTTER RESPECT***************
Someone who will honor your morals.
Someone who will make you smile when you’re at your lowest.
Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes.
Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel.
Someone who will stop what theyre doing just to look you in the eyes….and say “i love you” …
….AND ACTUALLY MEAN IT!
Give the nice guys a chance!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Guys select/copy and repost this if you agree
Girls select/copy and repost or call 555-baybay if you agree
Every Guy who isn’t a jerk will agree with this, so we hope that all the girls that read this will repost this
This bulletin was mainly about guys who ‘exist for love.’ The way ‘the business world’ makes it, all guys should ‘exist for “money”.’
The business-men are typically the guys that beautiful girls want to end up with—understandably, because more money allows for more-comfortable living; and all you have to do is ‘keep your man happy’ (i.e. exist for your man).
Right now, I exist for her beauty (really [for now], all above-average female beauty; but I’m Napoleonic … i.e. whenever I write to anyone, she has the feeling that hers is the only inbox I contribute to … lol); but out in the world, I’m ‘J, a webmaster.’ (‘Which site? All of `em.’)
That’s one of the things “wrong with the world-today:” men and women feel they should be independent.
I think they had it right when the families arranged marriages—then everything was ‘for the family’ (i.e. ‘independence’ was just like a hobby: interesting, but not an essential “right” and not necessary for survival).
Personal stuff (enjoyment, fulfillment, etc.) was okay, but it was just extra-a wanted-but-not-needed addition to the family’s stuff, the Kin-Stead.
I have to remember to think that way when I go out nights: treat all the single girls like ‘cousins’ (not ‘future-wife’-candidates lol) while out in public, and the other-men’s-wives/-girlfriends like aunts. (I really needed to write that; otherwise, I’ll forget-dam kleptomania! rotfl.)
When a girl is ‘my’-wife/-girlfriend, it simply changes who I am: rather than one of the cousins running-around, I become an Uncle (watching over the nieces-&-nephews from my seat in the shade.)