This is a time when a young girl will go through a lot of changes, both emotional and physical. Because of all these changes it can be a very stressful time, not just for your daughter but also for the rest of the family as well. When a girl first experiences her menstrual cycle, their is usually a feeling of fear. This is usually due to the lack of information. If your daughter is prepared for their first menstrual cycle then that experience will be more of a positive one. So the time to share this information is definitely prior to her first period starting. Your daughter needs to understand that the menstrual bleeding is a very normal process for young women to experience. But how and where do you begin?
You can start by gathering information from your doctor. They usually have a lot of printed material on this subject that you can show to your daughter. Even though you may know a lot about the topic, it never hurts to have a few visual aids handy, especially if questions arise. Even once they understand the process itself, it can still be very difficult for them to understand the feelings and emotions that come along with menstruation. The best time to start discussing this topic with your daughter is when they are usually between the age of ten and eleven, although some have been known to begin earlier. This is especially important when her body begins to go through changes, even if her menstruation has not started she should understand what is going on.
And this is definitely something that you do not want to leave to the school or friends to teach. Some mothers have found it useful to have the first day of menstruation as a special day for their daughter. It ca be used as a time for one on one conversation and to discuss feelings that your daughter may be having. Don’t be surprised if your daughter is a little reluctant at first to talk to you about this, it is only natural. This is especially the case when a father tries to talk to his daughter on this topic. If you are a single father raising a daughter, then you will want to be very understanding when approaching this topic. And if your daughter just can not seem to open up to you on this topic, you may want to ask a grandmother or another female relative that has a close relationship with your daughter to explain menstruation to her.
Your child has probably already heard various rumors on this topic around the school yard, so you will probably have to correct a few wrongs. Also it is natural for you as the mother to be a little nervous and apprehensive as well. Just pick a quite time and location to sit down and discuss this topic with your daughter. But do not expect to explain everything to your daughter overnight it will take time and a lot of repetition. Just remember to be patient and when your daughter is older she will definitely thank you for taking the time to explain things to her.