What makes a mate right for you? In other words, what specific qualities do women look for in a man and how do you know if he’s Mr. Right? For so many single women like myself, the answer to this question is so important that one day I decided to really take time to evaluate this dilemma. Following are the results of my evaluation.
Factor 1 – Chemistry. This is an important factor in every male/female relationship, whether you are soul-mates or just good friends. In other words what is it about a certain man that we find so appealing? We all know that man who just “really turns us on”, and when the chemistry is right, we know we turn him on too. Without chemistry or that certain “sex appeal” we would not be attracted to each other.
Factor 2 – Good Personality. Nobody’s perfect but some guys have a good personality. Some characteristics of this factor are niceness, a great sense of humor, respect for himself and others, a fair amount of intelligence, a fair amount of maturity, good self-esteem, and a generally positive attitude about life. When a man is nice to everybody, but especially to his woman, he should be considered a potential mate. Every single woman should deem this factor important.
Factor 3 – Attractiveness. We all know by now that a man doesn’t have to be real handsome to be attractive. In fact there are lots of “hunks” who just look average. Having a good body and knowing how to dress are real assets for any man to have. And good grooming, just puts “icing on the cake”. A well-groomed man wears his hair to suit his face, shaves on a regular basis, and knows which colognes enhance his aura.
Factor 4 – Similar Interests. Let’s face it—we all want a man who wants what we want. We want a man who likes to do the same things we do, and will do some of those things with us. For example, some women like going out and partying, while others prefer quiet evenings at home. Some women like sports, while others prefer a good movie. The point is no matter what we like, our perfect mate will do some of these things with us, at least some of the time.
Factor 5 – Similar Values. A woman who loves children will look for a man who also loves children. If a woman likes hanging out with a lot of friends, she will look for a man who has lots of friends. Most women are family-oriented and will look for a man who is close to his family members. If a woman likes politics she’ll look for this quality in her mate.
Factor 6 – Reliability. In the famous words of crooner Smokey Robinson, “there’s nothing that means more to a woman than a love she can count on”. Truer words were never spoken. Every woman wants a man she can rely on, to be there for her when she needs him, not only physically, but emotionally, as well. Most women want a man who will “commit” to them. Once she knows she can depend on him, it arouses her in every sense of the word.
Factor 7 – Financial Stability. While it is true that a woman can supplement her man’s income, most of us want a man who is already financially stable. This is not to say that because a man doesn’t have adequate finances he’s not a good mate. After all, he may have all the other aforementioned qualities, however, financial security makes him a better mate. In most instances when the woman is the more stable financial partner, the relationship tends to suffer.
Factor 8 – Religion. Last, but by no means least, is the religious factor. In fact, for many women this is one of the most important qualities in a potential mate. Many single women want a man who believes in God, and demonstrates that belief in his lifestyle. And most women want a man who will treat her with love and respect. Statistics have shown that a religious man will treat his woman much better than one who is not religious. Religious men have more self-respect and more pride than their non-religious counterparts. The aura of a religious man can be so powerful that sometimes even a non-religious woman will be attracted to him.
Well, all you single sisters out there, actively seeking Mr. Right, I hope I have helped narrow your search. I’ve always wanted to help my sisters and this is one way I thought I could. By helping you maybe I’ve finally helped myself. “Cheers” to all the good, Christian, single women out there and good luck.