Many techniques on the market today advertise ways in which one may become a successful parent. The truth is, you do not need a textbook or manual on parenting. Affirmative parenting starts with a simple concept, and that is the relationship that you share with your child. While children are truly an extension of who we are, they are not us. Children are a person all of their own. If we start to recognize this simple truth, we will be well on our way to affirmative and successful parenting.
It is important that we accept that our children are individuals. It is even more important for our children to understand that we see them as individuals, and love them for their individualism. Everything that your child experiences is all their own. All of their dreams, fears, feelings, and personality traits are what makes them, them. It is what makes them unique. We should cherish these individual traits and allow them to understand that we feel that it is ok that they are whom they are. If we want our children to be secure with who they are, they should know and understand that it is ok for them to feel secure with who they are.
It is very important that your children understand that your love for them is unconditional. Your children should understand that you love them for who they are as individuals and not the things that they accomplish, or do not accomplish. Do not allow your children to feel as if the love that you have for them is based on some sort of criteria. Let them know that you love them regardless of how they act, what kind of grades that they make, what mistakes they make, and what they achieve or do not achieve in life.
When we see our children behaving in such a manner that pleases us, we should ensure that we recognize this verbally. We should let them know that we caught them in the act of behaving well and that we are proud of them. Even if you see them doing something small, such as saying “please”, we should praise them and encourage them to continue this type of behavior. This makes the child feel proud of their accomplishments and appreciated.
It is important for parents to set expectations for children. In any society, there are rules and regulations. It is important for children to know what is right and wrong. Children need this kind of structure in their life in order to become responsible adults. When children obey this rules and regulations that you set, you should tell them how proud that you are of them and that you hope that they continue to perform in this manner. If children do not uphold to these rules that you set, then you should hold them accountable.
It is very important to set time out for yourself so that you can spend time with your children. Children value the time that you spend with them more than they value your job, money, and everything else that may possibly interfere with this time. Spending time with your children will show them how much you value them and the relationship that you have with them. This, above all, is the most important step when it comes to affirmative parenting.