The candles are lit ,you have Barry White playing on the radio, and satin sheets on the bed all in preparation for a romantic night with your partner. Things start off okay with a nice dinner and some dancing ,then it’s time to move to the bedroom . Now what do you do? Suddenly you feel like a clumsy teenager again. Don’t panic, pleasing your partner should not feel like a chore or a test. It should be an experience you both enjoy. With some simple tips you will be able to understand what your partner is looking for when it comes to sex.
1.Kissing, This is a very important part of an intimate relationship. You would not start a car on a cold morning and just take off. You would let it warm up a bit and the same is needed for your partner. Women need to warm up so to speak. They need to feel like they are special and that you are looking for more then a romp in the hay. Kissing is a very intimate way of showing your partner how important they are to you.Think back to high school and how you couldn’t wait to get a kiss from that special girl. Think about when that kiss finally happened how wonderful it was. This is how it is with women. We like to kiss and be kissed unless you are trying to kiss us with a mouth that tastes like whatever garlic,onion concoction you had for lunch. Then we would rather you hit the mouthwash first. Nothing kills the mood like bad breath.
2.Touching,for some reason some men seem to think that they only need to touch certain areas for a minute and then we are ready to go. This is not the way it is,again we need to warm up first. Touch us ,play with our hair, give us a massage,and remember there are other parts of the body that we enjoy being touched. Women have lots of sensitive body parts such as the neck, ears, breasts, stomach, and thighs. Try kissing your way around your partners body and pay attention to the way she reacts. Look for the facial expressions your partner makes and sounds of pleasure. Paying attention to these will give you an idea of what body parts your partner enjoys having touched.
3.Communication, or in other words Talk to your Partner. Tell her how much she means to you. Explain to her why you love her so much and how important she is in your life. Women like to have an emotional connection during sex and talking can help to establish this. Once things are moving further along you can try to talk dirty to your partner. Some women find this to be a real turn on. Not all women will enjoy this though. Listen to see how she responds to you. Don’t be disappointed if she doesn’t find it thrilling at first. If this is not something that you would normally do it might be a shock to her. Be careful in the words you choose ,calling her an obscene name right off the bat might get you hit in the nose(or worse). After sex is over be sure to continue the communication. Tell her again how much you love her. Also to be sure to tell her how much you enjoy making love with her. You might also discuss your sex life, but not when you are about to have sex. Sit down and talk about what each one of you need and like .
4.Pay attention, If you are trying to arouse your partner and it doesn’t seem to be working try something different. If it’s not enjoyable a woman will usually have a facial expression that says so. If there are no sounds of delight, something is not working right. Every night doesn’t have to be a mind blowing time. Some times women will want a quick encounter just the same as you do. If you are trying to do things and she doesn’t seem to be so responsive to them, move on to the next thing.
5.Hygiene, This is a very important part of sex. If you have rough hands or your nails are to long sex isn’t going to be pleasurable for your partner. It won’t kill you to use dome moisturizer on your hands and to trim your nails on a regular basis. Also as we discussed before make sure your breath is up to par. If you have been out sweating and working hard take a shower and get refreshed. I don’t know of many women who find body oder to be an attractive scent. Put on a little cologne ( not to much,if it burns our nose to be close to you it isn’t going to help things one bit).
Think about what you expect from your partner, If you want her to dress up in sexy lingerie then consider making yourself more presentable(white socks doesn’t do a thing for me).
6.Patience,we all know the saying patience is a virtue. Well this is especially true in the bedroom. Women are not built like men. We are not ready to have mind blowing orgasms in five minutes. We need the warming up part we talked about earlier and then a little touching before we are even close. If you are trying to rush to the main event you are going to have one angry partner. Think about how you would feel if you were promised a million dollars and when you went to claim it you found out that they were impatient to give it away so they gave away to someone else. Not quite the same but you get the picture.
By following these simple tips you will be able to have a better idea of what your partner is looking for when it comes to sex. This is suppose to be a time to express your love for each other, it should be enjoyed by both parties. Don’t worry if it doesn’t help the first time you try. It might take some practice recognizing your partners signals. Just don’t give up and you will have a better sexual experience.