When a relationship starts, there’s a natural tendency to want to do everything with the other person. Vacations start looking better. The prospect of a night on the town becomes more fun. Even the thought of a mundane grocery shopping trip becomes a little more positive when you have someone to share it with.
However, there are things that couples should never do together. While many things can make a relationship stronger, there are other things that can actually put a strain on it. Or do nothing for it at all. It’s okay to want to do things together, but think before doing some of the following with your significant other.
1.Work in the same place – This may work for some couples. However, before jumping into the same job or the same workplace, think it over. At work, there’s a stress level that can’t always be left at the office. When couples work in close proximity, the relationship begins to meld with the job world, two areas that should be kept separate. Having separate jobs will eliminate any chance of conflict at work that could be brought home at the end of the day. Plus, a significant other with a different job will help give you the unbiased comfort you need after a particularly rough workday.
2.Shop for clothes – Some women would argue with me on this point, because their men obviously need someone with savvy fashion sense. However, the actual act of going to the store and picking out clothes is best not done as a couple’s activity. If one member of the relationship finds shopping boring, they’re bound to get moody, taking away any fun the other may have had in the first place. Different tastes in clothes usually lead to shopping in different stores anyway. Attempting to stick close while one browses and tries on clothes is a recipe for boredom and irritation, two key factors in an impending argument.
3.Complain about friends – It’s easy to want to tell your significant other why one or more of your friends are driving you crazy. Unfortunately, they’re likely to take your rant as gospel rather than the simple moment of agitation it most likely is. Save the venting for other friends who are likely to remain either impartial or understand that you’re just blowing off steam. Even a simple disagreement with a good friend, when told to your boyfriend or girlfriend, can leave a bitter taste in their mouth. After all, they’re protective of you, and the fact that you may have been hurt by something might just be unforgivable in their eyes. When things blow over, your complaints may cause tension between said friends and lover. Or they just might not understand why you’re continuing with the friendship in the first place.
4.Visit a day spa – Don’t laugh. There are men that enjoy these as well as women. Visiting one as a couple, though, may not be a good idea. While many high class couples do it, the point of a spa is for one person to get away and de-stress for a few hours. Being pampered while the cares of the world are taken away temporarily can leave you feeling refreshed and beautiful. However, going as a couple can bring any current issues you’re having into this setting, taking away much of the relaxation aspect. Go this one alone and enjoy the down time. You’ll likely be in a better frame of mind to deal with any relationship problems after a few hours of self indulgence.
Go ahead and spend quality time with your lover. There are many things you can do together to build your relationship. However, tread carefully when deciding to do any of the above. Some things are best done alone. Individual time can do its own part in strengthening your relationship. Staying away from “hot” situations will also help avoid conflict.