Friendship is like wine, the older it gets, the better it is. The bitter sweet taste leaves an ever lasting impression on your taste buds. A friendship is just the same, it leaves an impression to cherish for a lifetime. It judges no one but seeks deeper solitude within one’s self.
Never judge a book before you have read its contents. People are like books, its soul is revealed within time and patience. A mother’s love for her child or children is that of a mother cub protecting her young from the dangers of unknown territory and prey.
A mother who turns to crime against her child is no mother at all. What mother who commits child abuse on her very own children and other children is a monster.
Little girls are made up of spice, sugar, and everything nice. Their dreams are that of butterflies, rainbows and hearts. They grow up to be “mother cubs,” who protect the innocence of their cubs. What obstacles alter the balance of mother nature? Can one’s upbringing be the fault for one’s outcome? Yes. Was she a victim of child abuse? Yes she was and did she grow up to become a person who commits child abuse? Yes. Why? Its what she learned how to.
An upbringing of a child can not only alter the child’s outcome but the life’s surrounding them. Ashley Traylor didn’t fall far from the tree. She became the product of a nurturing mother who lost all instinct to protect the lives of their cubs. She was the apple who didn’t fall far from the tree.
Child abuse has become more and more common these days. What is child abuse? It is the maltreatment of a child, esp. by physical violence or sexual molestation. In recent years, the most common cases were men causing the child abuse. Each case of child abuse ranges from mild to severe. But what most of society does not know it happens more than we think.
Child abuse cases has one face of many, and that is of a child.
A child who endures child abuse by the hands of a “monster” becomes a tormented soul. But that child or children doesn’t have to be that tormented soul. They can become a better person and it does make them a better person. As a victim myself, I have learned that the person or people who have done this, are the tormented souls. The child is the victim not the abuser.
But the Susan Smith case, a woman who buckled up her two young boys in the car, and drove the car into a South Carolina lake. She watched the car and the two helpless boys go beneath the water’s surface. Susan Smith altered the lives of the nation, she blamed the African American race for the kidnapping of the boys and of the car. But in reality she killed them.
Susan Smith isn’t the only child abuse case there is. The cases ranges from the age of the child and the crimes themselves. No child abuse case is the same. But Ashley Traylor is just like all child abusers. Most people who abuse children do not plan on being convicted of child abuse. Their upbringings are a big part as to why they do what they do.
In child abuse cases the man was the abuser but after the Susan Smith case, more and more mothers are the causing the deaths and mistreatment of their children. Child abuse has risen in recent years and has become a national crisis. If we don’t put a stop to child abuse now, it will become so out of control we won’t be able to stop it.
You would think she would learn from her own mother’s mistakes. But what mistakes should she have learned exactly? Listen to the story as it unfolds and you shall learn what Ashley did not. Ashley became another mother just like Susan Smith, a child abuser. But the difference between these two women is Ashley did not kill her children, damn near close but didn’t.
With the Susan Smith case, child abuse has become a very vivid reality for our society. She committed a different type of child abuse. Most cases are beatings, starvation and etc. Most do not end in death. Susan Smith became a convicted con when she committed the worst type of child abuse, her child abuse against her children ended in result.
Her life wasn’t a tragic but an unfortunate chapter in an innocent child’s life. Her upbringing and choices made her who she is and where she is today. Who is she and where she is you may ask? In prison and a convicted child abuser. Why is that? In order to understand why her upbringing and choices is the reason for her imprisonment. Let us explore behind the scenes of her childhood.
At the tender age of elementary school her father abandoned not only her, but a brother and mother as well. I believe it was either because of another woman or just an unhappy marriage. Ashley’s mother became a child’s worst nightmare for a mother. School or no school the unwed mother with two children would re-explore her teen years.
Her mother committed child abuse as well. There were times I can remember spending the night with Ashley at the age of eight or nine and spending it alone. Her and I learned at an early age what real mothers were about, and how to defend for ourselves. At eight and nine years old we learned how to cook and clean after ourselves, she grew up too fast and didn’t have a chance to experience a child hood.
When Ashley needed her mother the most. Her mother was just simply not there for her. A little girl seeks her mother’s guidance for the unknown territory of womanhood. But she was no where to be found. Ashley was often misunderstood and didn’t have many friends to lean on. Except for one. Who was he/she? Listen to the story as it unfolds and you shall have the answer you are seeking.
She was up rooted several times in her life and whatever happened in those up moves shall be always be a mystery to the outsiders looking in. Where is she now? Prison. Shocker? No. She followed in her mother’s footsteps. The only difference is her mother isn’t in prison. How so? Ashley abandoned her seven month old son Marcus in a Covington apartment for three weeks alone. He was defenseless and weak but was left any way to defend for his life.
Where was his young mother who was only twenty years of age and didn’t know the meaning of raising children? She was in a near by apartment hanging and chilling with friends. Ashley told her friends he was with a babysitter. Was this common behavior for her to do this? Yes her friends told authorities was not uncommon for the young child to be left alone.
The living conditions that the child was found was unspeakable. Garbage surrounded the child. Not only was garbage and filth surrounding the child but baby Marcus had a blanket tied around his neck. His small body was deathly sunk in, his tiny organs and bones could be visibly seen by the naked eye. It was believed he was wearing the same diaper for those terrifying three weeks alone. The stench of rotting garbage and feces must have been unbearable especially for a young child of that age. Ashley showed no emotion for her son when he was found and taken to the hospital. She even commented several times that she wanted her infant son to die.
It is a miracle he survived those long weeks of separation from society. At his rescue he was appeared to be lifeless and alone.
What makes a mother turn to these horrific situations where they wanted or tried to kill their children? In Ashley’s sad existence it was her upbringing. Sad but true. She simply followed in her mother’s footsteps. She didn’t learn how to be a nurturing mother.
Marcus isn’t Ashley Traylor’s only child, she has an older child, a three year old who is in foster care, and it is reported she is a pregnant again with her third child. A mother who could do this to an innocent child does not deserve the precious gift of motherhood. One would have hoped she would have learned from her mother who would from time to time leave her children alone to tend for themselves. But she simply did not.
She is currently being charged with felony criminal abuse. What Ashley was and is lacking is the compassion for others, especially for the innocence of children. She didn’t learn this trait as a child herself. I can’t be sure as to why she thought endangering her child to be the right choice to make. I can be sure of this Ashley wasn’t in her right mind and simply did not care about anyone but herself.
To answer the question from before, I am the childhood friend who understood her as a person. But now that I am grown I can not begin to understand the reasons for what she did and why. I never thought a mother could harm her child or children in that way. I don’t agree with what she did and I can’t imagine what possessed her to do such a heinous crime such as this.
I can say only this, she had a hard life and didn’t learn the compassion for others. She simply did not learn how to be a mother. I hope this article not only touches the heart of others and help others learn from Ashley’s mistakes. No other child deserves to be treated that way. Whatever may have happen to her as a child and as a teenager doesn’t give her the right to treat any child that way. If she didn’t want children she should have worn protection or have had those children adopted to families who would have cared for those children.
Being a victim of child abuse myself, I can begin to understand how Ashley may have felt. Granted my mother never committed abuse toward me. The acts of child abuse against me was by other people but I grew up realizing there are cruel people out there who want to harm children. I learned I wouldn’t want another child to experience what I experienced. And from one child abuse victim to another you would think Ashley would want to be a better person for her and her children. But she became lost in cracks of life somewhere to defend and learn for herself. She didn’t understand she is a victim of child abuse and so is her children. I hope for the sake of her children they never have to endure the crimes of child abuse or inflict child abuse on their children in the future.
Ashley’s mother mistreated her and her brother by leaving them alone at night. Even though the son was old enough to stay alone by himself, Ashley at eight years old should have never been left alone. That mistreatment is a form of child abuse. I just hope and pray that child abuse becomes a thing of the past and not something of the future.
I wish this article helps children who are in need of good homes and decent families to love and care for them. Ashley had choices in her life to make, she could have chosen a better life for herself and her children but she chose a path in life that has now led her a life behind bars. I once was her friend as a child and I hate to say this but she deserves what she gets. She chose this life and now she must face the music.
In my resource I will include the number to call if you think a child is being abused by anyone. Your identity will remain anonymous unless you wish your identity to be known. Whatever the case may be, if you suspect a child is a victim of child abuse, please report it immediately. We as a nation need to come together to bring child abuse to a stop and protect our children.
This article is written for her children, may they be in safe, loving arms. This is to the parents of children, if you ever feel you may be becoming to this situation, please seek help before doing something you will forever regret. Every child is special and needs to be treated just as that. Our children are our future and we need to protect them. This is in dedication to all children who have been a victim of child abuse, keep your head up high and keep believing.
In the most severe child abuse cases are never acknowledged by the government. In most recent years, government statistics has proven that child abuse and neglect on a child or children have worsen dramatically.
Please keep this quote in mind: ” Our children are our future and are precious gifts from the angels of God. Mistreat them and we are mistreating our Heavenly Father of God.”