Do you like when people praise you? How do you feel when someone special tells you they love you and appreciate what you do? Most people like to receive compliments and pats on the back for a job well done. Children are no exception. Believe it or not, children do like to please their parents and caregivers. Finding a way to let your child know you love them, appreciate them and care about them is not hard and should be done several times throughout the day.
I love you is one of the most common ways of showing your love and affection for someone. There are plenty of other ways of showing love though. Daily hugs, kisses, high fives and pats on the backs go a long way towards expressing your feelings. Children know when mom and dad are happy and when they are upset with their actions. A smile is worth a thousand words-smile often and show your child you are proud of them!
Use a positive word of recognition when your child has done something well. Saying, “Way to go” or “I like it when you do that” are good ways to recognize good behavior or accomplishments. When your child learns a new skill, tell him that you knew he could do it and make sure he knows he did a great job. For example, ” Great job-I knew you could write an A and that looks fantastic!”
Tell your child often how great he is and what a nice child he is. When you catch your child doing something nice, make sure to reinforce his good behavior with a compliment. For example, if your daughter is sharing her toys nicely with her sister, tell her, “I really like the way that you are sharing with your sister. That makes me happy to see you playing so nicely together.”
Other words that you can use to praise your child are:
Super * Fantastic * Great Job * Wonderful * Excellent * Beautiful * Marvelous * Lovely * Awesome * Perfect * Way to go * Good Job * Terrific * High Five * Nice Job * You are so smart * I love the way you____ * I knew you could ____ * You are the best * Cute * That is incredible * Wow * Hot dog * A+ * Nice try * Dynamite * Exciting * Right on target *
Reward your child when they do well. Find something that your child enjoys and treat them. Giving extra privileges will show a child that they did a good job and you liked what they did. Allow your child to invite a friend over for a sleepover, take them to their favorite restaraunt, have them choose a new toy or book from the store, reward them with a trip to the museum or park or find any other reward that your child will enjoy. You do not have to reward your child with materialistic items every time they do something great. If you do, it will not be special anymore. Just make sure that you are praising them with words of encouragement and acknoledgement each and every time. Take time throughout the day to recognize your child for good behavior, learning new skills, helping with housework, being kind and other typical items.