Where is she? What is she doing? We once did everything together and called each other every morning before taking our babies out for their summer stroll. It was fun and I looked forward to her call. Even though I was tired I would quickly get up and get myself and the baby ready so that I could spend time with her. I hoped it would stay that way, but I was wrong. Now, she is gone from my life and we don’t even communicate. Is this still a friendship? Is it still worth anything at all? If she returns am I supposed to also return to the way I was before? Are friendships like this true? Is it true that if a friend is really a good one then they will always be there offering ongoing support to you? I’m not sure of the answer. I just want her to know that I care about her and I hope she is okay. I also wonder if she ever wonders about me. So what is friendship really? Sometimes I myself do not know.
In my life I have felt like the few trustworthy friends I had have gone away. One I have had since I was small has always only been a phone call away and over the summer we spent alot of time together. now, it has changed. Another friend of mine keeps on playing the hide and seek game so to speak. She comes around and says it’s for good and then leaves again. It is definitely not my place to judge her though because she is still my friend. I can understand when she is confused about her life and I am happy for her if she has finally found the place in which she wishes to stay. I only wish the best for her. On the other hand i get mad at times because I wonder if this summer she will again come around only to leave again. if so, I will be happy while she is there but this time I will not expect her to stay even if she swears she will. Anyway, I want to know what friendship is. I think it is a combination of many things.
Friendship should be the bond between two people who share some of the same feelings about life. They should be two people who care about each other and what goes on in each others life. They should be honest with each other even if they aren’t honest with others because they should have trust. They should enjoy time together and be able to joke and laugh. That to me is a friend. A friend is not someone who has to always be around even though it would be better if they were. They can live miles apart and still be best of friends. It is only when they let go of the communication that they have began to drift apart and the fault lies on both sides. It is not really ones fault or the other. It takes two to let go of a friendship. If one person lets go or is too busy in their everyday life then the other must step up to make the call or the email. It is hard at times to keep in touch with todays activities. Doctors appointments, babies, boyfriends, dinners, and visits with relatives. Even though all these activities keep us busy we need to remember our friends.
Some people believe family is most important, which of course they are, but families are much more quick to judge you. A friend can give all the support that a family would without all of the judgment. So keep all of your friends close to you and cherish them. Sometimes if they are gone you may think it is for good but it doesn’t have to be. Friends can always return. They don’t have to return to you face to face but they can return in a simple letter or email. So remember your friends because they are an important part of life. All the friends who I do not see often I still think about often. It will always be that way because they have been good to me and that is what friends are.