There are many reasons that your parents may not agree with your choice in a significant other. Sometimes your parents have a different path in mind for you than you do for yourself and it can be hard for them to come to terms with this fact. Many parents tend to think that no one is good enough for their son/daughter. Still other parents are prejudiced against a certain race, class or ethnicity and are unable to accept their child dating someone who falls in this category.
More likely than not, however, your parents have your best interests at heart. Maybe they feel that you have chosen someone who is not right for you, whether this means you have little in common, there is a significant age gap, or they are financially or emotionally unstable, verbally abusive or even violent. However, even if your parents may have a valid point, this does not give them the right to try to make your choices for you or to attempt to sabotage your relationship or treat your significant other in a rude or hostile manner.
Listen calmly to why your parents feel the way they do and take some time to consider what they have to say. Sometimes those on the outside of a relationship can see things that you can’t, especially when you are blinded by love. There is also a good chance that your parents are simply afraid of losing you, especially if you are an only child or this is your first serious relationship. When they see you becoming serious with someone, they may feel jealous or neglected. If you suspect this might be the case, make sure that you continue to include them in your life and make time for them that doesn’t include your significant other.
However, in the end, who you spend your life with is your choice and you should do what makes YOU happy. In some cases, this might mean distancing yourself from your parents and family, but hopefully when they realize that he/she is here to stay, they will give him/her the chance they deserve.
Finally, avoid calling up your parents to vent when your partner does something that angers you or hurts your feelings. You shouldn’t have to “sell” your choice of partner to your parents, but it doesn’t hurt to mention their strong points now and again. If you parents make negative remarks about your significant other or your relationship with him/her, make it clear that such comments are not acceptable. Hopefully, with a little open and honest communication you can at least agree to disagree. However, let them know that if they refuse to come to terms with your relationship, you might be forced to shut them out of your lives.
Hopefully, your parents will realize that their dislike for your choice in a significant other is not worth ruining your relationship over. Unless you really have chosen someone who is not good to you, they should come around eventually. Until then, be patient with them, but do not stand for any rude behavior or inappropriate comments.