What does Valentine’s Day represent? Cupid, hearts, flowers, chocolate, candy, love, etc. Most couples label this [ridiculous] holiday as the most romantic day of the year. But, why can’t any other day of the year be just as romantic? Why do we fall under the expectations that Valentine’s Day sets?
Whether I have been single or in a relationship around this time of year, I have always disliked Valentine’s Day and the message it holds as a so-called “holiday”. I have always told my boyfriend not to buy me gifts for Valentines Day, and that I would not buy him gifts either. Of course somehow, on February 14th, I would always end up receiving gifts from him. Apparently my boyfriend thought I was simply trying to be modest and I secretly wanted some expensive gift, but he was also trying to fit what a “good” boyfriend is supposed to be. To me this was upsetting. I personally believe Valentine’s Day is a true “Hallmark” holiday. So why does a majority of the population fall for a corporate scheme?
That’s easy to answer. For couples, Valentine’s Day is what I call an “excuse day”. This basically means that all the other days out of the year are much too average to do something something special for your partner, right? Valentine’s Day doesn’t offer much of a surprise either. How many women expect flowers and chocolate? A lot apparently.I have to ask myself: Wouldn’t it be more romantic to receive gifts from your lover or partner on any random day of the year? Not because it’s a “Hallmark” holiday, but because you love them and think about them year round, not just one day.
The message that Valentine’s Day gives us is not a romantic one. Valentine’s Day says that it’s just fine to forget your partner any other time of the year and that when February 14th rolls around on the calender, you must buy buy buy to make up for the rest of the year simply because it is Valentine’s Day. It also puts pressure, on both men and women, and sets the bar for ultimate gift giving. How you follow through with the Valentine’s Day expectations decides whether you are a good partner or not. The more elaborate the gifts, the more in love you are. Or at least that’s what stores, the media, and corporations put on us. This is absolutely ridiculous.
My suggestion is that you skip out on Valentine’s Day, every year. Skip out on the flowers, the cards, the gifts, and treat it like any other day of the year. Instead, do something or buy something for your partner on any random day of the year.Do not plan it out ahead of time, do not bother to write it on your planner. Do something for your partner when you’re thinking about them, it doesn’t have to be just one day. The positive sides of this are the element of surprise and romance, something Valentine’s Day lacks completely.
Romance and love are not supposed to be a corporate scheme. Nor are they supposed to be just one day out of the year. Ditch the Valentine’s Day stuff this year and show your affection and love for your partner whenever you love them, and hopefully that is year round.