In response to You Can Tell if a Woman is Crazy Before You Start Dating Her I have to give the counter point. Having dated a bonified crazy man before, I know a few tell tale signs. Please run from any boy who has any of these quirks, characteristics, habits, or personality flaws. It is not worth it. No matter what he looks like.
Just a forewarning. It may take about three dates to spot some of these traits. If you see one or more just run the other way.
He Takes Longer to Get Ready Than You Do
He takes longer to get ready than you do. Now, I know we are in the era of the metro sexual, but this is just not the regular everyday behavior of a normal male. If your potential better half consistently primps and styles himself longer than you on a regular basis you need to run. Run very far away. If you think he is critical of himself, you can only imagine how critical he will be of your personal appearance. These types of men are not to be trusted. They are insecure and put too much emphasis on the physical appearance of anyone they meet.
He Always Wants to Talk about Himself. Always.
Seriously, you are not a shrink. It may seem amazing to find a guy who can talk for hours and hours about himself, his feelings, and his mother (we’ll get to that one later). A novelty in fact. The truth of the matter is though; he will never tire of talking about himself. Everything is about him, only him, and no one else. He may listen to you occasionally, but really he only wants to talk about himself.
You should also understand that once he realizes you are tired for listening to him he will move on. He must always see that gleam of concern and understanding in your eyes. He has to feel special and he cannot do that for himself. So, he will start looking elsewhere. In most cases you will find that he secures his next victim before he even leaves you. You will get the sad farewell and a day later he will already be burning a hole in some poor girl’s ear about his sad life story about how he is misunderstood, his parents are divorced, his Dad is so lonely, his Mom ruined their life, and blah blah blah blah.
He tries to change what you wear.
Comments like, “You always look nice, but you would look better in this…” are a major warning sign he has a serious crazy jean (ha ha) in him. I am not saying he will try to make you look like a slut in trampy clothes, I am saying he is now trying to control you down to what you even wear.
He Tells You How You Can Improve Your Nice Gestures or Gifts
He tells you how you could improve sweet gestures or gifts you give to him. For instance, I once baked some blueberry muffins for a boy I dated in college. The psycho had the nerve to tell me they would have been better without the crumb topping. One this is crazy because the topping was awesome. Two it was rude. He should have said thanks and fallen over from shock that anyone would even do one nice thing for him.
He Refers to Any Body Part of His as “Hot.”
Ok, so hot was not the word when I was still dating, but if he lets you know other people compliment him on certain aspects of his appearance, you need to run, run, run, run. Run fast. Seriously, the insecure guy is the equivalent to the crazy woman.
He Mentions His Mother or Sister on a Regular Basis.
Seriously guys, no normal girl will care about your mother or sister. This is especially true if you are just in the beginning stages of dating. Yes, over the years, after you are engaged or married the women in your life can establish whatever relationship they want.
Ladies: A special word of warning.
If he mentions his mother in any inappropriate way run away fast. I cannot stress this enough. I am not referring to vulgar words towards her; yes those are an obvious sign as well. What I am really referring to is a guy who repeats things his mother said to him throughout life that are just inappropriate on her part. I do have a specific example, but cannot bring myself to type it since people I am related to read a lot of my articles. All I can write is that if she ever discussed any aspects of the menstrual cycle or tampons with him run away. She is crazy, therefore he is now crazy. A normal guy would have walked away from a conversation like that. Seriously. No real man is interested in that.
He Throws a fit Like a girl When He Sees a Play Girl Magazine.
I once dated a guy who had a fit because one of my friends in school had a Play Girl magazine in the same room as me. I had to listen to him drone on endlessly about how he did not like me looking at other men. Boring. Boring. Boring. Run. Run. Run. Seriously. Run. I didn’t even get to see the magazine, but was tortured with a 45 minute conversation that almost made me pee myself from laughing at him so hard!
Your Friends Do Not like Him.
This is a sign that the guys are seriously deranged. If you are the only person that can stand him, then there is a reason for this! He is not misunderstood, he has not been given an unfair shake, and he has not stated out on the wrong foot. Listen to your friends.
He Has to Be the Center of Attention.
Guys who want to be the center of attention are often crazy. Seriously. Every normal guy I ever dated did not care two licks about having all eyes on him.
He puts down your friends.
This is a sure sign of an insecure guy. He wants you all to himself, so he pushes your friends away with comment like, “Well, she didn’t really stay long at your birthday party did she?” So, he drives a wedge between you and good friends. Fortunately this is the death null of this unhealthy relationship for you though! Eventually his insecurities about himself will roll over to you. If you only spend time with him, your friends will eventually fall away from you. He can only judge you based on what he perceives that others think about you. If you have no one around to think good things about you, he will not either. He has no opinions he has formed himself.
Hope these clues, signs, and behaviors of an unstable male keep you from wasting your time too! If you are curious, I actually dated a guy who showed all of these traits. It took me 8 months to get rid of him.